FOB got another girl pregnant and isnt involved in his own daughters life??

[LOZANDEVIE]

Ok so my daughters dad did the dirty on me many of times and tried to committ suicide whilst i was pregnant.... then when lillie was born he said he didnt want to be there because it was disgusting. Then when I was at home, he come round once and called me fat ( 3days after birth ) which of course upset me. His mum then took her cot,blankets,cardigans,baby grows,bibs and dummies off her that she'd bought and said that she wasn't her grand-daughter. He also said that she isnt his.Hes threatend me with court and im still waiting. He hasn't bothered to put anything into her life why should I bother with him.He's now got engaged to a girl who he got with the day my daughter was born (3months ago) and they are now expecting a baby. And how does that make u feel....Well... someone tell me please??

 

[bump_wanted]

in honesty as much as he sounds like a bit of a prat id still be upset...its like your wee girl will have a half sibling and id feel gutted that this wee one will be treat like its part of the family where as yours isnt though thats saying he sticks around with this girl

guys need to stop just having babies its not fair on the kids!

to you

how are you feeling about it all, sounds like your pretty numb in your post xxx

 

[nervouspains]

People take having children to lightly!
By the sounds of it- good riddince and good luck to them! Thats what I would say- Would you really want a man like that around yur child?
If my babys dad was a $%$%£"$ then I dont care what others would think or say, no way would I want him in our life- nd if he got another girl pregnant, well more fall her- its nothing to do with me and my child xx

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

Thank you im just speachless. Its like, he's trying to replace my daughter if that makes sense. & All his family are all happy that hes getting married to this girl and that they are having a baby- yet they took my daughters stuff away from her and they will be using it on that baby.& He hasnt been with her even a year yet i just dont get it? What is he going to do this time to get out of being a dad? Take an overdose an blame it on me ? Telling her what he told me? That he doesn want to be a dad. Well he should have hought about that because hes one TWICE OVER NOW. Well,once..considering he thinks my daughter is non-exsistant.You're right,good luck to them... He told me that his girlfriend would have played mum to my daughter if she were to go there. and I wouldnt have wanted that anyway, so pretty good job she is pregnant- She can mother her OWN child now and not mine. Thanks ladies xxxx

 

[nervouspains]

I honestly wouldnt give it a second thought hun- they not wrth your time, tears, or energy. Just enjoy your beautiful little girl.
Let him make his own mistakes, he will realise one day and by then your precious little one will prob tell him to get lost anyway.
You dont miss something you never had- and by the sounds of it, she will be glad a loser like that wasnt in her life.
Your a fab mummy & will do a fab job raising your little girl.
You will meetr a wonderful man who will bring her up as his own- and she wont give a second thought to her waste of space sperm donor xxx

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

Thank you so much for your kind words and advice.Huge xxxx

 

[nervouspains]

xxxxxxx

 

[teal]

Huge huge hugs

 

[LittleMadam]

Completely agree with Nervouspains. Just to add, screw him! His loss regarding your LO. I don't think he and his new partner will last, tbh. You also won't have the hassle of having to deal with them if they are not in your life. As for court, hmmm, he is trying to wind you up but if he is sincere, good! He will have no choice but to acknowledge Lillie if he does go that route and he will have to pay child support!!!

All the best.xxx

 

[billy2mm]

i would say you had a lucky escape hun!

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

Thank you so much ladies- I am never far from help on here. to you all for your time and help! x

 

[amygwen]

I'm so sorry he's doing that to you guys are really so unfair. They think they can just go spreading their sperm all over the place and leave their children. In all honesty though, you are doing a fabulous job being such a great mommy and Lillie doesn't need him in her life if he's going to be mentally abusive to you. It's not fair. Just imagine how he would be to her if he was in her life and what kind of things he would tell her when she's old enough to understand! That sucks that your FOB is doing that.. but you're doing such a great job without him I wouldn't even think twice about it. Yeah, it sucks that guys are SO stupid, but we don't need them! You're wonderful though!

 

[LOZANDEVIE]

Thanks so much Amy!! Big hugs to you and beautiful Kenneth! xxx

 

[Sandie_Cali]

To be honest, your FOB and his family sound completely wacko. Who would take things back that they gave to their own grand-daughter even at that. And him calling you fat after you gave birth to his child, what a low life.

OMG, just be happy he is out of your life and making someone elses life a living hell.

I would get up shake him off and go on with your life, you are sooo much better off without that loser.

My only question is, where the hell are we finding these losers!!!! And if they dont want children, USE A CONDOM.