FOB & His Family

[YoungMummy08]

not sure if its the right place but i knew i could only get an view from people who have been threw what i have been threw, although im not a single mum anymore i was for a while & am expecting my 2nd child well i do not see my sons dad for legal reasons and he no longer see's his son as his parents do not allow this... so heres a quick background about everything was with FOB from 14 till 18 at 18 i got pregnant & he became abusive so with the help of my mum & his parents i got out of there... now im very close with FOB's parents we talk all the time, they watch him alot & have even started helping me with his childcare so i can go university, they do not know i am seeing someone or that i am 15 weeks pregnant..the other day they had him for the weekend & took him shopping i was on the phone & she was telling me how proud she was of me & thankful im her grandchilds mother & how spoilt he is because we (me & her & my mum) only have 1 baby. now im thinking do i tell her ive moved on & im pregnant and when do i tell her? this baby wont be part of her family but i feel bad not telling her as we are so close she is like a 2nd mum to me sorry for the longness

 

[SonyaKain17]

I think that since she has helped you so much and been so supportive of you and your child that the right thing to do is tell her.
You said that your mother and his parents helped you get out of that abusive relationship. So that right there should tell you that no matter what she has your best interest and your childs best interest at heart.
If she was willing to take your side and be there for you even though it was her own child acting like that, then you should be honest and up front with her.
I bet in the end she will understand that you've moved on, and is prob hoping that you have.

 

[littlekitten8]

You wont be able to hide it from her forever. I would suggest telling her sooner rather than later as then she will have longer to get used to the idea. You may find that she is happy for you that you have moved on. You won't know until you try. Good luck x

 

[billy2mm]

i would tell her soon tbh.

she helped you out of the abusive relationship im sure she will be over the moon for you to have found someone new that you are happy with and that looks after you and heir grandson.

congrsatulations btw!

 

[Mize1982]

I would tell her as soon as possible hun, as you say she is like a second mum to you and I'm sure she will be over the moon for you.

Yes it will be difficult, especially after that converstion but its a worry you don't need when ur pregnant.

Good luck, I hope it goes well x