FOB is REALLY annoying me now

[miasmum2012]

basically me and FOB have come to an arrangement where he has LO wednesday days and friday overnight til saturday afternoon as long as his mum and dad are there as he lives with them.

he also said he would give me £15 a week.

it has literally been one week and hes "forgotten" to give me child support this week and made it into an argument when i said he should give me £30 next week, started saying i'm lucky hes giving me anything at all and his real dad hasn't given his mum anything blah blah blah....

he also demands bottles off me and baby monitors etc and won't buy any of his own plus i asked him to have her a bit later on wednesday so i could have a break and go to the cinema with some of my friends and he said he can't cos hes busy with a facebook page as hes the admin |:

i'm getting seriously annoyed with him, and its only been a few weeks

 

[emeraldbaby]

I sympathise with you, It would be very frustrating. Don't give him anything for the baby, he should be providing stuff to use at his place. and document everything!

 

[miasmum2012]

can i do anything about it? i didnt really want him seeing her in the first place cos i didnt want this happening, i dont want her when shes older knowing that her dad rates a facebook page higher than her

thats whats really annoying me, facebook over daughter...really?

 

[teal]

That does sound really frustrating. Can you contact csa for child support? Then you won't have to listen to his excuses?

I agree with the above about not giving him anything, tell him to buy his own. xx

 

[Jennifurball]

Contact CSA with regards to money, he can't get out of it with them and he is legally obliged to pay for his children whether he sees them or not.

You could also get some free advice from a solicitor, or the CAB with regards to stopping/limiting access.

 

[miasmum2012]

I've phoned the CSA, he was supposed to be coming to my house as well today at half 9 to pick her up so he could have her for the day and its nearly 10 past 10 and i haven't heard anything from him and he still isnt here

Pfft

 

[helen_beee]

I've refused my FOB contact based on him missing a visit (only his 3rd one!), not contacting me, not giving me money and because I'd found out he was still using drugs. I contacted a family law solicitor and outlined the situation to find out what I should do, maybe you could contact one and ask for advice?

My solicitor confirmed that I should refuse visitation and see if he bothered to take it further. He hasn't and he still doesn't pay but I don't want his money as if he gave me money for him I know he would think that meant he was entitled to be involved in Oliver's life. As long as he leaves us alone, I don't want his money.

You have to stand up to him and stand your ground, I only refused visitations because I'd given him so many chances and kept threatening to stop him visiting, I eventually had to show I meant my threats and refuse to allow him to see Oliver.