FOB making no bloody effort :(

[littlekitten8]

Well FOB is only seeing James every other Monday as it is. He had my car until Saturday and I had agreed to go up there today cos he was low on money til pay day. Then on Friday I found out he had not paid the damn council tax so I had to pay £310 which I totally didn't really have. Told him when I picked up the car on Saturday that I wasn't sure I would be able to come up today cos I was completely skint cos of having to pay out that money. So then I got the car and all 4 tyres are pretty much bald! I only put 2 new front tyres on it the week after James was born! So told him yesterday that there was no way I could afford to come up now and there was no way I was driving my child in a car that is barely legal, 2 hours up the motorway! He got in a right grump and said he wouldn't be able to come down. I pointed out that there was this thing called a train that brought people all over the country. He said he didn't have any money. I pointed out that his friend would lend him the money to come see his son. Especially as he will be James's godfather and loves him to bits. Then the excuse was that it would take him 3 hours each way. Now don't get me wrong but f***ing hell! If it was me I would walk the 90 miles if it meant I could spend 5 minutes with my baby! Its all excuses excuses excuses! I can't even leave the tyres til pay day cos I have to go back to work in 2 weeks and will be commuting 85 miles each way, 3 days a week! Arrrrrrggggghhhhh!

 

[sweetlullaby]

What a complete arse I would be the same I mean 3 hours each way on a train or not see your own child think I'd go for the train!

Has he had your car long? Just strange that it needs new tyres already when you only replaced two a short while ago Has he been skidding about in it?

But anyways and it sounds like he plain cant be arsed coming round, typical bloke i suppose (no offence to any guys on here who are the exception lol) xx

 

[expecting09]

Did he say he'd pay you back half of the council tax you had to pay? Just sounds like he's too bone idle to get the train

 

[littlekitten8]

Hes been driving my car pretty much since I was about 10 weeks pregnant cos I had such bad back. Yeah he drives it like a complete tosser, wheelspinning etc.

He has to pay another £220 council tax when he gets paid. I'm so sick of it. He is always on the phone saying he misses James and wants to see him, yet he doesn't make the effort to come down and see him.

 

[lou_w34]

I know how you feel

xx

 

[littlekitten8]

I have to take James to the drs in a minute. Kinda glad in a way that FOB isn't down today cos James is poorly and he would have wanted to come to the drs with us. Getting him weighed too which is another thing he insists on being allowed to come to and I refuse. Am I mean?

 

[lou_w34]

I dont think so, why should he get the fun stuff (not that your baby is poorly and going to the doctors is fun, i mean getting to see how much he weighs and what not) when he doesnt even want to get a train to see his son....

I dont think so at all, he needs to be in his sons life constantly... not when he feels like it!

xx

 

[littlekitten8]

Yeah my point exactly! Its so frustrating! He was the same when we were together. Only wanted to do the fun things like pushing the pram and chatting to him. All the feeding, changing, bathing etc was down to me.

 

[sweetlullaby]

They're all a bunch of useless tossers. Personally he's been using your car he should be paying for new tyres not you. Also with the council tax he should be paying half of it. you have a LO to fed and clothe etc and he should be a bit more responsible!

 

[littlekitten8]

sweetlullaby - he is selfish and a child. I don't expect to get any money out of him for tyres. He is only paying me £70 a month in maintenance! Can't see him paying any more money out to me. What really pisses me off is I found out this afternoon that he is going out tonight!!!

 

[sweetlullaby]

Awwwk what a complete prick!!! no money to come and see his son yet has money to go out on the town !! He needs to get his priorities sorted out!! A good kick up the arse do him the world of good!lol

 

[littlekitten8]

Yeah too bloody right! So tempted to go give it to him lol. Ah well his loss. He is the one missing out on all the milestones and smiles and cuddles.

 

[teal]

You're right - he is the one missing out.
Sending you hugs xx