mamashakesit
Mom to Harleigh
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I realize this is really, really, really long 
It's definitely a vent, so if you don't want to read all of it, the last paragraph poses a wrap-up of my concerns...thanks.
I wrote a post several weeks ago about how my then boyfriend left me at 7 weeks pregnant for a bar-fly bimbo with 2 kids. I had to catch him before he'd actually admit it and then he told me he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby.
A few days later, he apologized a thousand times over, saying he'd been drunk. We set up a meeting; he cancelled a couple hours later.
After 3 weeks of not speaking, his best friend's gf called me and asked me to give him a chance, saying she "knows he's an ass" but she'd never seen him so concerned about anyone and that he truly cared about this baby.
A few days ago, he came over, under the strict stipulation that there was to be no more LIES (champion compulsive liar). He was quiet, apologized over and over, allowed me to ask questions and promised not to BS me. Said he wanted this child more then anything, that he loved it already and he wanted to be there for everything. He even went to my dr. office to see if they could get me in for an earlier appt, since I can't get in until I'm 14/15 weeks. He told me he was still hanging out with the bar bitch, but basically what they did was go out and hang at the bars. The next day, he took me to breakfast and texted me later that evening and said he was done with her.
Within 3 days, I caught him in several lies regarding this woman, got a call from her from his cell phone - while HE WAS RIGHT THERE. He let her call me. I even heard him tell her in the background that I was pregnant with his child (and the tramp actually said he "just needs to leave me, cuz it will never work out.")
The next day, he was supposed to help me fix my car and I couldn't get a hold of him. Finally, 3 hours later, he called and said he'd had a wild night the night before and he'd be there to fix it soon. He didn't say anything about her, but it was pretty obvious who he'd been with. So I pulled out the old "C**t" word, which I NEVER, EVER use and told him "I hope this C**T is worth your child." He repeated back what I said in disbelief and I just told him I had to go and hung up on him.
Not 5 minutes later, I received the filthiest, foul-mouthed text ever from this woman's 13-year-old daughter, about what a nasty-ass cooch I was and how he'd just used my dirty ass for a booty call and how he was with her mom now and I had no right to contact him until I got a blood test to prove this baby was his. Obviously, I'm not going to fight with a 13-year-old girl. I tried to call him and she answered his phone twice and said "he was in the store." Sounded like they were in a moving vehicle with the background noise, so I didn't believe that.
He waited over an hour and then called me back and said he'd had nothing to do with the texts and that he was through with her and through with this town (he's back in his hometown and was supposed to be visiting for the summer) and he was taking off and moving back to the midwest, but he would still keep in touch with me and he would give me $1000 to move back to my family.
When he tried to call the next day, I refused to talk to him and responded to his VM by text saying I didn't believe anything he said about the texts and being done with bar bimbo or anything...and ended it with "goodbye"
I have a feeling he really wants this child, as he was in foster care as a young child and tossed around from home to home. He's never had a blood relative. I have a feeling he will keep trying to contact me every few weeks wanting the baby again...but that he will never have any respect for me. I want my child to have a father more than anything, but if he can't have any respect for it's mother, how can I ever trust him with my baby. The last few days of my life have been miserable and so stressful. I can't have him showing up every three weeks and putting me through hell...it takes way too much out of me. I just want your comments, suggestions and support ladies...anything is appreciated.
It's definitely a vent, so if you don't want to read all of it, the last paragraph poses a wrap-up of my concerns...thanks.I wrote a post several weeks ago about how my then boyfriend left me at 7 weeks pregnant for a bar-fly bimbo with 2 kids. I had to catch him before he'd actually admit it and then he told me he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby.
A few days later, he apologized a thousand times over, saying he'd been drunk. We set up a meeting; he cancelled a couple hours later.
After 3 weeks of not speaking, his best friend's gf called me and asked me to give him a chance, saying she "knows he's an ass" but she'd never seen him so concerned about anyone and that he truly cared about this baby.
A few days ago, he came over, under the strict stipulation that there was to be no more LIES (champion compulsive liar). He was quiet, apologized over and over, allowed me to ask questions and promised not to BS me. Said he wanted this child more then anything, that he loved it already and he wanted to be there for everything. He even went to my dr. office to see if they could get me in for an earlier appt, since I can't get in until I'm 14/15 weeks. He told me he was still hanging out with the bar bitch, but basically what they did was go out and hang at the bars. The next day, he took me to breakfast and texted me later that evening and said he was done with her.
Within 3 days, I caught him in several lies regarding this woman, got a call from her from his cell phone - while HE WAS RIGHT THERE. He let her call me. I even heard him tell her in the background that I was pregnant with his child (and the tramp actually said he "just needs to leave me, cuz it will never work out.")
The next day, he was supposed to help me fix my car and I couldn't get a hold of him. Finally, 3 hours later, he called and said he'd had a wild night the night before and he'd be there to fix it soon. He didn't say anything about her, but it was pretty obvious who he'd been with. So I pulled out the old "C**t" word, which I NEVER, EVER use and told him "I hope this C**T is worth your child." He repeated back what I said in disbelief and I just told him I had to go and hung up on him.
Not 5 minutes later, I received the filthiest, foul-mouthed text ever from this woman's 13-year-old daughter, about what a nasty-ass cooch I was and how he'd just used my dirty ass for a booty call and how he was with her mom now and I had no right to contact him until I got a blood test to prove this baby was his. Obviously, I'm not going to fight with a 13-year-old girl. I tried to call him and she answered his phone twice and said "he was in the store." Sounded like they were in a moving vehicle with the background noise, so I didn't believe that.
He waited over an hour and then called me back and said he'd had nothing to do with the texts and that he was through with her and through with this town (he's back in his hometown and was supposed to be visiting for the summer) and he was taking off and moving back to the midwest, but he would still keep in touch with me and he would give me $1000 to move back to my family.
When he tried to call the next day, I refused to talk to him and responded to his VM by text saying I didn't believe anything he said about the texts and being done with bar bimbo or anything...and ended it with "goodbye"
I have a feeling he really wants this child, as he was in foster care as a young child and tossed around from home to home. He's never had a blood relative. I have a feeling he will keep trying to contact me every few weeks wanting the baby again...but that he will never have any respect for me. I want my child to have a father more than anything, but if he can't have any respect for it's mother, how can I ever trust him with my baby. The last few days of my life have been miserable and so stressful. I can't have him showing up every three weeks and putting me through hell...it takes way too much out of me. I just want your comments, suggestions and support ladies...anything is appreciated.
Chin up
