Fob not even met lo

[whatwillbe]

I can't believe my baby is three months old and her sad, pathetic excuse of a dad hasn't met her yet, I knew he didn't want me long ago and I know he hates me, for what I'm not sure tbh as I was always good to him. I text him the other night to see if he plans to have anything to do with his daughter and he text me back saying he doesn't want to know. How can someone be so completely cut off from their own flesh and blood and have absolutely no interest ? I could have been amicable with him for the sake of my daughter having a dad , I keep thinking I must be so repulsive to him that he can't bear to put up with me for at least one hour so that he can see her, I honestly thought that once she was born he'd want to be involved, I just can't get my head around how someone can be like that, she is the most adorable little girl.
I feel like because I wasn't good enough , neither is she and it's so ironic because he wanted me to get pregnant, I honestly think he planned for all of this to happen, to get me pregnant and have nothing to do with his daughter, he has broken something inside of me, he's taken my self worth away and I'll never feel good enough for any man again, not that I want one right now, at the moment I never want a man again, but he's also made me see how strong I am, that I don't need him, I'm managing fine on my own, I just feel so bad for my little girl, she didn't deserve this, she is so innocent and deserves so much better there are some truly heartless "men" in this world, sorry it's so long I just need to get it off my chest to people that can relate to it x

 

[Ceejay123]

It's probably not about you, I wouldn't blame yourself. He's using your relationship break down to skimp on his responsibilities and lead the care-free life he once had! He's a jerk sweetie, you and your daughter are better off without him. I don't understand how some men can do this x

 

[whatwillbe]

Thanks ceejay , maybe he is using it as an excuse because after we split, I asked him why he split with me an he said it's cos I'm a mad woman !? Lol as far as I knew we were good, it was once I told him I was pregnant he seemed to lose interest in me, I suppose I'll never know why and I'll never understand either x

 

[Shezza84uk]

This is HIS issue, he will regret it in time. You are and were too good for him! continue to be a strong mom to your beautiful daughter time heals and eventually you will feel whole again. Not every man is cut out for the role as a parent but they somehow find these children they abandon when they are old grey and alone! life eh? keep strong hun xx

 

[whatwillbe]

Thanks shezza, I'm gonna try and think of it as his issue from now on if I can, rather than thinking it was me an my daughter who's not good enough, I never really thought of it like that, I told him aswell not to think he can come and be in my daughters life when she's a grown woman an try an take credit for her, it just won't happen , thank ladies, it helps to let it out to people that understand x

 

[laura3103]

He's a was of time chick and your lo doesn't need someone like that in her life!!

My 2 kids have never met their dad he dumped me when I fell pregnant with my DD we met up again one night I fell pregnant with my DS ( I planned him cause I wanted another baby and even tho FOB an idiot I wanted them by the same dad and it was easier ) and since then nothing my kids are happy I love them enough for both a mum and dad and they don't even ask about him!!

 

[Dezireey]

Best to have no father hun than a crap one. I'm sure if you asked 1,000 people who were brought up with abusive, neglectful, hurtful, etc etc fathers in their lives, whether they would have preferred not to have a father at all... they would probably not want that man around. Its tough, but our babies have us and they get overcompensated with pure love from us and that is wonderful and worth more than any half assed Dad.

If my FOB turns around now ( after what he has put me through) and wants to know my son, I will fight him in court before he comes anywhere near him. Before, I wanted my FOB to know his son, now, my sons life would be worse if that man came into it. Your LO will understand one day and be thankful that she has you all to herself