FOB not gonna see lo at all

[anna matronic]

I don't post in here too much! But did whilst I was pregnant. Before Xmas I text fob and asked him if he wanted to see lo and he said he wasn't ready but maybe soon. I took this as a positive and just left it at that not forcing the issue.

Fob never told his family about the baby (he's had over 9 months lol) but a member of his family has found out and obviously confronted him about it. I don't know the ins and outs but it ended with me getting the most nast email from him telling me I am rubbing his face in it on facebook (he deleted me so can't even see my facebook!) It was my selfish choice to have the "kid", I was obviously desperate for a baby and I am making him look like an idiot!

So I have blocked him on fb so he can't see anything at all, I have blocked him so he can't send me msgs on another forum which he did and basically do not want my son to know this nasty waste of space

It makes me sad obviously and wonder how some men can just be so vile and nasty and not give a shit about their own flesh and blood and disprespect me so much. All I did was have the baby and that was my choice. I never expected anything, never even told him he'd been born.

Just needed a rant

 

[teal]

Sending you huge hugs

My ex has never met LO, he doesn't even know that he has a son. (It was his choice to cut all contact) xx

 

[billy2mm]

they are not men they are boys.

he isnt worth it and you are all that lo needs.

 

[littlekitten8]

What an idiot. FOB doesn't see James at all. His choice. Have had no contact for months aside from a FB message on his birthday....at 8pm!

 

[kelzyboo]

I'm going through the same thing, just split and he's made it clear he won't fight me to see my son (it would have to be supervised as his family are on social services list and take drugs, can't be trusted) but he won't even try for supervised and i won't push him, its his choice.

There are plenty of fantastic single mothers in the world, if the FOB's don't care then nothing will make them. I care and thats all that matters xx

 

[purpledahlia]

FOB has met LO twice, and has contributed £280 to her entire life. He wont be seeing her again (unless he has a brain or personality transplant) Hes a waste of space. LO doesnt need him in her life and hes blown his 101184972-293184'th chance!

 

[kelzyboo]

I don't blame you hun, we have to do the right thing for our children and unfortunately sometimes that means not having a dad in their life. Its a sad situation and not one we choose but if they are not capeable of being a good father and an asset to their childrens lifes then they shouldn't be in it!

Concentrait on you and your daughter, you're the important ones, let him mess up his own life, not yours xx

 

[Newdreemz]

Im going through the same thing. After I told fob and we talked it over, I pretty much thought we were good. Until I texted him last year October and he never replied and that was it. Haven't heard from him since. And I haven't even tried to contact him since. I just pray for him. And at the end of the day, they aren't even angry at us. It's not even about us! It's the fact that they are sacred and afraid of having to adjust! Having to accept some responsibility in this. Its not just our faults.

They are not men yet obviously. And instead of manning up, they'd rather run. It's easier but it doesnt mean its over. Because everything that is done in the dark will come to light. Eventually they'll have to live with the reality of just abandoning their own flesh and blood. I just pray for him. And am finding a way to forgive him. Almost there. Lol not quite but almost there.

Just remember its not about you. Its something going on with them and id rather them WILLINGLY be a father to their children than
Anything. So I just let it go! You'll be okay. Who needs snakes in their grass anyway?! Just mow the lawn!