FOB seeing child

[Beth09]

Have any of you gone through the courts for the father to have access? We have had a good system up until recently, my son usually goes on a tuesday and then one night at the weekend! Recently he hasn't wanted to go i managed to get him too on Tuesday and i said to his Dad as he hasnt stayed with him for a while then he can have him friday saturday this week this was all fine until he just said hes not bringing him back till Monday now! I think with all thats been going on 3 nights away is too long but he's refusing! I really think we need to set a legal agreement so that he can't break it but then i dread him getting him more (if that makes sense) what will a court usually do in this situation?

 

[Ceejay123]

Definitely do it if he's refusing to hand LO back. The court would bring the matter back in, if the order wasn't being followed. If he didn't turn up - his contact would be decreased. If you didn't take LO for any reason, you'd be chased for it and get in trouble (unless he was ill etc). It means if he didn't return LO to you he'd get in serious trouble as you're his main carer.

You could also apply for a residency order, I'd really suggest it. x

 

[Beth09]

I'm not unfair at all but i'm even going to the doctors with my LO because of his anxiety! I do everything i can to get him to see his Dad even if he refuses! But i can't keep doing this, he thinks he should call all the shots and whatever he says goes. But if i go to court is there a chance he will be given more days with him? That's what im scared about! x

 

[Ceejay123]

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[Shezza84uk]

Apply for a residence order and incorporate a visitation agreement. The fact he knows he can just take him however long he wants would concern me the residence order will make sure he returns him without it he actually don't have to! Speak to your solicitor xx

 

[tooyoung]

Most people do go thru the courts, especially when they can't agree. It's best to have it all legal anyway. I don't think the court will give him more time. Does fob want more time? The court wants what's fair. But why is your LO having anxiety about his dad? Something sounds really wrong there and that's what would scare me more than anything.

 

[jaytee146]

I think this is why Im scared to let lo's father keep her.. you guys def need to go to court to get a legal document as far as visitation and overnights are concerned. It would be super if you could start recording the conversations you are having with him in regards to what you agreed upon and what he's doing now. that would help you explain how fob can't keep his word. Here the father usually gets every other weekend and 2 weeks or so out the summer. however.... fob has "two jobs" so he hasn't seen lo in almost 3 weeks.