FOB using heroin and drinking

[Tryingfora4th]

Just wondering what others would do in my situation.
DD is 15 weeks old, when she was new born FOB was having contact for 2 hours (supervised by social work) 3 times a week plus we could go for walks etc with her (long story how it ended up like that)
It started off really well and he was doing great, then he started drinking more and more and I was strongly suspecting he was using heroin but he strongly denied that.
He started to miss contact, and occasionally he turned up still under the influence from the previous night.
Contact was reduced to once a week for 2 hours but he couldnt even commit to that.
Social work have said they wont facilitate any more contact but I've seen my solicitor and offered him 3 hours on a saturday in a contact centre where it will be monitored.
For the last month he's been on a massive bender, taking drugs and drinking every day, he's hardly spent any time with his daughter at all.
I've had it confirmed by his brother that yes he has been using heroin, he's not an addict he just uses it now again, so he's doing it because he wants to and likes it rather than because he's addicted and has to, so in my eyes he is choosing drink and drugs over his daughter because he knows if he is not sober or has been taking drugs I will not take her to see him.

I'm waiting on a response from him about the contact I offered, in the mean time its up to me whether I take her to see him or not, but I really feel like not allowing him anywhere near her if he's injecting.
Am I within my right to deny him contact in the circumstances?
WWYD?

 

[v2007]

Honestly.

Stop all contact till he is clean and sober.

He is an addict and whether he is chasing the dragon or injecting he is taking money from his childs mouth!!

She is 15 weeks old and need constant supervision and if he is under the influence, he is incapable of doing this so no contact is the only way in my eyes.

V xxx

 

[angelpkj]

INBOX me if you want

my FOB takes everythin but heroin and im looking to keep him away from my son untill he cleans up his act
he's threatened me with court (if he actully does) so would like to know what happens

 

[angelpkj]

and just read it through again and DO NOT LET HIM SEE HER

it knocks me sick to think of my fobs hands,covered in drugs,the drugs comming out of his pores in his sweat,the smell of drugs on his clothes as he wants to cuddle my son

you are a mum and mums decide what is best for their children and if i was you i wouldn't allow contact,it might be enough to make fob change his ways,or it might not work out like that but either way id rather my son have no dad,than a dad who cancells and is drugged up

 

[Rhio92]

I'd stop him seeing her hun x

 

[1bunintheoven]

I know it is hard...I am in sort of same situation. For your childs sake I would stop all visitations.