FOB's family at christening?

[jemmie1994]

Am in middle of planning Evie's christening it's not till 19th August but really not sure whether to invite FOB and his family.....part of me feels i should cos they are still her family but then the other part thinks stuff them they haven't bothered with her at all since split from FOB.
Am really stuck what would you guys do?

 

[Jinty]

That's a hard one. How long have you been split from him and his family stopped caring?

 

[jemmie1994]

its only been 3 weeks so there a chance things could get better...but i doubt it for all fuss they made in beginning they haven't even asked how she is

 

[Jinty]

In that case i would send an invite. Just so they can't use it against you if you don't. If you know what i mean? End of the day they are LO's family and if you send an invite they have the right to come or not its their choice. That's what i would do anyway

 

[new_to_ttc]

I invited FOBs entire family for my eldest childs Christening (I left him when I was pregnant as I learnt he had a finance and she was due just before me... she left him too when she learnt of me.. he is still alone! ha!) anyway.... yes I invited him and all his family, he came but none of his family did, but least I have been able to tell my son that his dads family have been invited to everything and chose not to come, than me chosing not to invite them along.

 

[dustbunny]

It is a very tricky one seeing as everything is still rather fresh. When I first split with FOB I tried to include him in such plans, even though I was only a month or so gone, just to try and keep him involved. Needless to say all he said was "I have so many people for Godfathers" and when I explained later that if she was a girl then tradition is for only one Godfather he got funny with me as if I had this huge list!! Needless to say he hasn't mentioned it since, hasn't mentioned anything... as in no contact about baby since Boxing Day [from me again!] and I am now overdue [!!] and thusly he will not be invited to the Christening.

I read someone else's comment on another thread, "being a father is a privilege not a right." If someone makes the effort then yes, include them, if they don't then why bother.

 

[jemmie1994]

thanks have got back in contact with his dads side of the family and they've been brilliant so they are more than welcome his mums side however have just shown no interest and they're only down the road (!) sent them a picture yesterday to say happy easter...nothing! *sigh* they put me under so much pressure when Evie was first born really feel like just forgetting them but will invite them last chance if they dont reply im done with them!

 

[Laura2919]

Depends on how you feel. I personally wouldn't want the tension but if by then things are good between you then I wouldn't see why not.

 

[teal]

If things are ok between you then I would invite them but if they're not then you don't need any extra stress xx

 

[lovemybabaa]

if it was me and they never bothered with my baby i wouldnt invite them

its there loss at the end off the day that there missing out on your Daughter