FOB's mum got in touch :/

[jemmie1994]

3 weeks ago just after we split FOB's mum text me asking if i could bring Evie round sometime in the next 2 weeks because her husband (FOB's stepdad) was going into hospital and wanted to see Evie before he went in, i was so happy to hear from them because really didnt want Evie to lose contact with her dads side so i said yes and asked her to let me know when....no reply
Then two weeks later get another text 'Nick (the stepdad) is going into hospital tomorrow can you bring Evie round today?' well i was literally about to step out the door because had already made plans with my mum so i said no sorry I'm busy today....hoping they'd get the message cant just drop plans on me last minute and expect me to run around for them but then in the evening get another text this time off Nick saying his hospital appointment has changed to Friday (suspicious in my opinion but thats just me) and asks if I can bring Evie round before then? I'm still pissed they didnt have the common courtesy to reply to me the first time when i was more than happy to bring her round ,but since then they've made no effort at all to see her so i though no you want to see her you can come here or can arrange to meet somewhere else (like FOB's dads side of the family we're meeting tomorrow in a local pub so is like neutral territory and no one is made to feel uncomfortable) and told them I wouldnt come to their house because it makes me uncomfortable and again got no reply
I'm not sure i did the right thing and do feel abit guilty now but i want them to understand they cant just act like we dont exist for weeks then expect us to come running as soon as it suits them ugh i just dont know what to do now

 

[Lemonflower]

Congratulations on your LO hun! I had my little boy on the 28th March

You only gave birth 2 weeks ago. You should be resting and they should be visiting YOU!!!!
Do not feel guilty, sounds like they are being awkward by not replying and you shouldn't have to change your plans at the last moment.

Leave them to contact you again and give them the opportunity to come to your house to visit LO. Have an excuse that after an hour you need to go out - so they're not there too long. That's what I'd do anyway.

xxxx

 

[Lemonflower]

You gave birth 1 week 3 days ago!!

They should know better trying to get you over to there's.
- I've been pretty active since my LO has been born but I'm in bed at 8 every night and I'm still knackered all the time!!

xxxx

 

[jemmie1994]

Evie is 10 weeks old its not that I cant get to theirs I've been their twice before with Evie except then I was with FOB ,now it'd just be awkward but they can't see my reasoning for that, I'm just so annoyed that everything has to be to suit them and when it doesnt they ignore us :/

 

[Jinty]

I think what you did is totally acceptable! Better to make sure their position then later on. Good for you! Don't feel guilty, your the mother of LO it should be under your terms. xx

 

[Lemonflower]

Sorry hun, lol!!

Yeah I agree with Jinty! You're her mum it should be on your terms.

Xxxxx