Foolish?

[laylasmommy]

RIght now I don't know whether to feel like a complete fool or what...I'm just so confused.

I did so good yesterday, I only message my ex to tell him to change his facebook status because I did...and he asked if I was sure and I just said yes and didn't bother texting him for the rest of the day. Well when I was out with one of my girlfriends he texts me and asks me how I was...being all friendly and stuff.

He does say that he wants to be friends and he'll be there for me and the baby because he knows without me he wouldn't have his baby. He's said that since the split...

but randomly last night he texts me and asks me about making hamburgers with cheese in the middle and stuff and he said he was just thinking and wanted to know. & Then asks me if I wanna talk later, now being me I decided yeah that's fine.

So I call him because if he calls me my family gets mad, and we have a nice conversation, we talk about just anything and everything that comes to mind. Of course I do most of the talking though because I was hyper. Well we end up talking until almost two in the morning. And it was nice, one thing that bugged me though is he asked me how I was. I said I was happy and he was like, "I'm glad. I want to see you happy. & I'm happy. I want you and me to be happy. I'm happy right now." I was like just stop I don't want to hear that stuff, he apologized and said he needed to say it. Later he goes off to say that once the baby is born that we should all go on a vacation together.

I want him back, I really do...but he says he doesn't want me like that since we broke up and if he has any feelings towards me come next month he will tell me. But he knows how he feels and he says nothing will change. I want to believe they will...

Now he hasn't texted me all day and I feel like I just want to talk to him...ugh!!!! I feel like a moron for getting my hopes up over one conversation, and hoping that things will change. We both said we enjoyed our conversation though and I told him that I wished that we could have talked like that when we were together...ugh I just want so much from him but I doubt it will happen. I'm so confused.

 

[Laura2919]

It seems like he is wanting to be your friend and by asking you to talk on the phone he means he wants it to work as friends. But I aint getting anything that tells me he wants more! He seems to see you as a friend and the mother of child and nothing more!

Its hard, There were times I could of just simply wanted to get back with the twins dad but I was strong and I didnt. Its such a cliché but time is a great healer hun! It truly is! Even now 10 weeks on I have bad days but they are few and far between and I am happy that I am no longer with him.

Dont wait for his texts or for him to tell you he wants you! Time to move on!

 

[frankyzw]

Is there something that you can do to keep yourself busy eg a new hobby, learning about parenting? Don't spend your time waiting for a call or text. Get busy with your life. Leave it up to him to catch up with you if he's really still interested. Guys like to do the chasing, lol!

 

[laylasmommy]

I'm getting over the whole waiting for him to text me thing or call me...it's just something that I want because I'm bored.

Granite the stuff with this other girl keeps bugging me but she says she loves her boyfriend and I'm going to try and stick with that and just pray they stay together because I don't want her dating my ex any time soon and frankly I don't want her near my child.

I'm not going to chase him and try to get him to like me...I'm just going to do me and see where that gets me. If I'm meant to be with him then things will work out. Come next month when we see each other things might be different. I am hoping he is regaining feelings for me but I'm going to try and not be too let down if they don't work out the way I want them to.

He's been helping me with my worries as a friend and that helps but I still can't help but to get jealous right now when he talks to this other girl, even though he promises that nothing is going to happen any time soon.

One thing that is bugging me though is the fact that he won't tell his parents and he keeps saying that they don't need to know that we split up. His dad is going to meet me when we see each other next month...and someone might find it weird that we're not all over each other...

any ideas on what he means by not telling them? I mean if he doesn't tell them and he ends up getting married to someone else down the road won't that be weird?

 

[Laura2919]

As for the whole her dating your ex its going to happen with someone so it doesnt matter. It stll annoys me at times that my ex has moved on but then I think that poor girl is going to suffer just like I did!
I was embarrassed to admit to my mum and dad that me and the twins dad had seperated so maybe thats why!!

 

[laylasmommy]

I know it will happen eventually I'm just hoping it's not with her lol

and idk...I told my mom right away because I needed a shoulder to cry on...my dad left her at about he same time my ex left me. The only difference is that my dad has had no contact at all with me or her.

Maybe I'm just hoping for too much lol but whatever happens happens I guess. I have no control over it, and if he doesn't like me for the amazing me I am then he doesn't deserve me.