Helen
ICSI Twins + miracle BFP
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Particularly Wannabmum and FJL. Big 
you two.
This is from a book called The Wayward Stork. This used to reduce me to tears during the tough times but I found it strangely comforting that someone was able to put into words how I was feeling.
Hope it works for you too.
How to instruct your inner circle.
Please treat me as though I am in a crisis. I am. I can and will cry at the drop of a hat. I am sad, angry, scared, excited, hopeful, worried and nervous.
Please DO NOT tell me you know how I feel unless you, yourself, have endured an IVF cycle. This is more difficult than you know.
Please treat me with kid gloves, as I am hanging on by a very thin emotional thread.
Please see that everything is not business as usual in my life, household and heart.
Please call, write or send me an e-mail.
Please give me books or magazines that I can leave in my car for reading during the endless streams of medical waiting rooms that I will visit over the next month.
Please bake, cook or order in food for my household. We need to eat and I am out of commission.
Please permit me a clear calendar and excuse my lack of involvement in other activities, as my days are filled with tests, results, endless appointments, phone calls, decisions, physical discomfort and fatigue.
Please excuse my lack of interest in everything else. Remember what I said about crisis?
Please give me permission to do what I want to do, be it laugh, cry, sit around or be really, really active in something.
Please help out around my house by washing some dishes, vacuuming a room, or taking my dog for a walk. Remember that my husband is overwhelmed and in need of support too!
Please let me know that you are supporting me even if this cycle fails. That is my biggest fear and the hardest thing to talk about.
Please remind me that I am strong enough to endure this, as I am sure to forget along the way.
Please dont ask me if Im pregnant. If and when that occurs, I will sing it from the highest rooftop!
you two.This is from a book called The Wayward Stork. This used to reduce me to tears during the tough times but I found it strangely comforting that someone was able to put into words how I was feeling.
Hope it works for you too.
How to instruct your inner circle.
Please treat me as though I am in a crisis. I am. I can and will cry at the drop of a hat. I am sad, angry, scared, excited, hopeful, worried and nervous.
Please DO NOT tell me you know how I feel unless you, yourself, have endured an IVF cycle. This is more difficult than you know.
Please treat me with kid gloves, as I am hanging on by a very thin emotional thread.
Please see that everything is not business as usual in my life, household and heart.
Please call, write or send me an e-mail.
Please give me books or magazines that I can leave in my car for reading during the endless streams of medical waiting rooms that I will visit over the next month.
Please bake, cook or order in food for my household. We need to eat and I am out of commission.
Please permit me a clear calendar and excuse my lack of involvement in other activities, as my days are filled with tests, results, endless appointments, phone calls, decisions, physical discomfort and fatigue.
Please excuse my lack of interest in everything else. Remember what I said about crisis?
Please give me permission to do what I want to do, be it laugh, cry, sit around or be really, really active in something.
Please help out around my house by washing some dishes, vacuuming a room, or taking my dog for a walk. Remember that my husband is overwhelmed and in need of support too!
Please let me know that you are supporting me even if this cycle fails. That is my biggest fear and the hardest thing to talk about.
Please remind me that I am strong enough to endure this, as I am sure to forget along the way.
Please dont ask me if Im pregnant. If and when that occurs, I will sing it from the highest rooftop!
Good luck gals! You both deserve to have your wishes come true 
