For those mummys who have new boyfriends/partners since FOB

[xxsteffyxx]

Just a bit of a silly question - sort of!

Does anyone ever worry about having another baby with their new partner (I know I would love one with my boyfriend) but then the possiblity of your new partner favouring their new baby over your baby.

Steffan loves Harvey with his heart and sole, he adores him. Treats him like his own. We have always talked about another baby when Harvey is in school but I always worry about once a new baby comes along he will favour his own flesha and blood over Harvey and Harvey worships him.

Does anyone else worry about this? Am I being silly?
Steffan is a wonderful man and I doubt it would ever happen.

 

[Jade--x]

I worried about this with my ex. We were planning kids years in the future, but then I got pregnant unplanned. He never treated either of them different if anything he was more my oldest as he was the fun one rather than the baby that slept, cried, pooped and fed we split up before my youngest was at the 'fun' age so I don't know how it would have panned out in the long run but he doesn't see either of them now through choice so suits himself x

 

[daneuse27]

Yes, I've worried about this before too. Also because Id never want my little girl to feel left out. One of my best friends and one of my former boyfriends were both in this situation; their moms remarried and had other kids and they were both treated as outsiders by their stepdads. My daughter has her father's last name, so if I re-married, then Id share a last name with my new husband as well as any kids we have, and she would keep her father's. I wouldn't marry someone unless I knew with 100% certainty that he was going to love her as his own and never make her feel like the 'step-daughter.'

 

[lemontree12]

just when you said the bit "We have always talked about ANOTHER baby when Harvey is in school" says to me he thinks f him as his own.

i have thought about that situation (although im not in relationship) but what does stick out in my mind, that i will always treat my daughter differently, we have been threw so much together, and have a bond because of it. not that i wouldnt protect another, but id protect my daughter in a different way also, protect her feelings from being pushed out etc.

 

[xxsteffyxx]

Oh the pair are inseperable thy truely are, he waes up at 3am to change his smelly nappies and lets me sleep if I need too, and he'll babysit when I need him too, he pays half for childcare and I never asked him too. It'll always crossed my mind, but I don't think anything will ever happen xx