Freaking Out !!!

[alittlefaith]

Hey everybody
I really need to vent ; so here it goes ...
Sooo I'm 14+3 weeks pregnant and I have no idea how to take control of my life & prepare for my baby .
(1) I have yet to tell my family about being pregnant
(2) I live in student housing and babies aren't allowed so I've been trying to find a place to live but I can't find something affordable .
(3) I can't find a job to save my life
(4) My boyfriend is trying to go to the Navy but is having the hardest time passing the ASVAB. We are really depending on him passing. If not I don't know what were going to do .
(5) My "BestFriends" are total "A-HOLES".

Anyways I just needed someone to talk to & you girls are the best

 

[teenmommy15]

(1)Tell your parents right away just get it off your chest so its one less thing stressing you out
(2)maybe when you tell your parents they can help you find affordable places to stay or offer you some help, also try look in the newspaper and online
(3)goto the local mall or an area where theres alot of stores to see whos hiring and ask around some people might know.
(4)Help him study and boost his confidence if you help him study it might help him focus more and learn me and if he feels confident odds are he'll pass
(5)if your bestfriends are being a-holes for whatever read them avoid them you dont need people in your life whos gonna stress you out. if you need a friend or anyone just to talk to pm me

 

[alittlefaith]

Thanks for the advice . I have been helping my boyfriend for like the past 6 months . I try my best to keep him motivated lol . But Im running out of ways to keep him motivated . He's taken the test 2 times already with no luck . As a matter of fact I'm waiting on him now . He's taking another shot at it . I hope he passes

 

[teenmommy15]

well try to make a game out of it, or turn it into something interesting that he likes theres always more possibilities i hope so too good luck

 

[wellsk]

Has your boyfriend got another job or solely focusing on trying to get into the navy?
If it's the latter then I'd say it might be worth getting a job on the side too. It'll help on the money side (you could potentially find affordable housing together) and I imagine it looks better on him being prepared to work and stuff?

Like teenmommy said, you must tell your family as soon as! The longer you leave it, the more difficult it'll get and more anxiety provoking. Maybe write them a letter which will enable you to write your feelings eloquently and give them time to think calmly about their own thoughts?

You should also go to your college/university and see what help they can provide

 

[xforuiholdonx]

Hi there! Welcome and Congratulations.
First thing, you should tell your parents atleast. They may be able to atleast help you mentally.
Secondly, there is no studying for the asvab. What he needs to do, is sit down with his recruiter and talk to him or her. They have practice tests on the computer that can help him atleast no what his weak points are. Also he needsto watch how much he's taking them at MEPS, because after a while they start putting time restrictions on it. My brother had to wait 60 days once, which isn't going to help you guys out much. And the military really on helps money wise and insurance wise if your married and once the baby is here. DH is an ex marine, I'm ex Army.

I'm Lisa, 20, and have a 2.5 year old little girl, and am 23+3 with a little boy. If you ever needto chat, you can pm me.

 

[thecurlymama]

Hey! Congrats on your pregnancy.. no matter how scary it is now, you seem like you're taking the general first steps to becoming a wonderful mama
I'm Emma... I'm 16, 21w+5days pregnant. Telling my mom wasn't easy... I told my boyfriend first thing, and we told my mom together the next day. I knew she'd be supportive so I suppose that made it a little easier. I can see how scary it would be to tell your parents if you didn't think they'd take it well.

As for your boyfriend and the whole job situation... That's always hard- money. Money's hard for everybody these days, especially being young and having the responsibility of a baby can be really stressful. I think that you should talk to your boyfriend and see if joining the army is really what he wants to do. Is that what will really be best for you and the baby? Of course, I'm not one to judge... I think you should do whatever feels right to you. However, maybe you guys should reconsider things and try to find resources that could help you guys other than him trying to pass a test that seems to not be working, ya know? Where I am you can get WIC checks when you're pregnant which are checks for certain foods that are healthy for pregnant mothers and children up to five years old. Also, once your child's born here you can receive TANIF which is a certain amount of money each month for about 2 or 3 years from when the baby's born. I live in Washington state, and I still live with my parents and my boyfriend has a full time job, but we're still looking into these things. Along with foodstamps which can be really helpful. If you could utilize those sorts of resources wherever you are along with looking for a job and a new place to live, then maybe that could be another step for you and your boyfriend to take? And if not him (if he decides to continue persuing the army option) then at least you could try these things.

I hope telling your parents goes okay. Like the others said- it's a lot less stress and tension to be carrying around- which also isn't very healthy for you or your baby right now. Good luck with everything and I'm always here to talk if you feel like it!

Emma

 

[justhoping]

the others are right you cant study for the asvab. he really does need to speak to his recruiter for help..
but while he is waiting for this he needs to look for other jobs...weather burger king or gas station money is money....and a job is a job ...
if ur looking to work maybe put an add up for baby sitting in ur neighborhood and pass it around to people you know that your looking to be a mommy's helper or baby sitter...that would be an easier job for u to actually get at this point..
also cleaning lady....nothing extreme of course just normal house stuff would work well for you..
maybe do some tutoring for a local gammer school too?
not sure about housing other then go to your local wic office and ask about how to find housing for your situation..they would know some stuff...

you are away if he does go in the navy he will be gone with boot camp ( sometimes up to two months )and you cant pick the dates....he will be sent someplace you cant pick and it could take up to six months after that for you to go with him....Im not talking you out of it as its an awesome job to get and be proud of...just giving you the reality of it.....

good luck...xx

 

[MissKeisha]

You should really tell your parents, I know it is so hard to do. Do you have any siblings you can talk to first?
Keep looking for a job, you'll eventually find one... Just have to be wiling to do any Job as long as it doesn't endanger your baby!
See what assistance from the government you can get. Things will get better just focus on your baby.
I'm not sure about housing because ill be living with my parents but once you tell them maybe they can help ?
Hopefully I was some help.
Good luck

 

[alittlefaith]

Has your boyfriend got another job or solely focusing on trying to get into the navy?
If it's the latter then I'd say it might be worth getting a job on the side too. It'll help on the money side (you could potentially find affordable housing together) and I imagine it looks better on him being prepared to work and stuff?

Like teenmommy said, you must tell your family as soon as! The longer you leave it, the more difficult it'll get and more anxiety provoking. Maybe write them a letter which will enable you to write your feelings eloquently and give them time to think calmly about their own thoughts?

You should also go to your college/university and see what help they can provide

He was solely focused on the navy but now he's trying to get a job until the whole navy thing comes thru . I also am on the hunt for a job so hopefully that comes thru . I plan to tell my mom about the pregnancy this spring break . I hope she doesn't freak out .

Thank you for your advice

 

[alittlefaith]

Hi there! Welcome and Congratulations.
First thing, you should tell your parents atleast. They may be able to atleast help you mentally.
Secondly, there is no studying for the asvab. What he needs to do, is sit down with his recruiter and talk to him or her. They have practice tests on the computer that can help him atleast no what his weak points are. Also he needsto watch how much he's taking them at MEPS, because after a while they start putting time restrictions on it. My brother had to wait 60 days once, which isn't going to help you guys out much. And the military really on helps money wise and insurance wise if your married and once the baby is here. DH is an ex marine, I'm ex Army.

I'm Lisa, 20, and have a 2.5 year old little girl, and am 23+3 with a little boy. If you ever needto chat, you can pm me.

Hey thanks for your advice . I'm going to tell my mom when I go back home for spring break .
My bf has a asvab book that he practiced/studied entirely . He recently scored a 53 which is passing

 

[alittlefaith]

You should really tell your parents, I know it is so hard to do. Do you have any siblings you can talk to first?
Keep looking for a job, you'll eventually find one... Just have to be wiling to do any Job as long as it doesn't endanger your baby!
See what assistance from the government you can get. Things will get better just focus on your baby.
I'm not sure about housing because ill be living with my parents but once you tell them maybe they can help ?
Hopefully I was some help.
Good luck

I plan to tell my mom when I go home for spring break next week . I'm the oldest so I have no one lol . No cousins or anything .
I applied to so many jobs so I pray at least one comes thru . I'll take whatever I can .
I wish I could live with my mom but she just gave birth so there's no room for me & my baby . I know she's going to freak out when I tell her I'm pregnant . My little brother & my baby are going to be so close in age which is weird .
You were a lot of help and thank you for your advice & input

 

[MissKeisha]

Yeah I'm the oldest too, my Lil sister is 13 but I told her first just so I could tell someone. I don't have cousins either. You never know what she would say. She won't leave you homeless. But you'll be okay. Just keep trying. Let me know what happens when u tell your mum!