freaking out!

[moomin_troll]

well im having one of my panics where im terryfied of being a single mum with 2 babies!

if it was just me and zane i no id be perfectly fine, but for him to be so brave adjusting to us losing his dad to then a new baby coming i have no idea how hes going to handle or how the hell im going to cope

when zane was born my oh was here and could help if i was too tired or needed a bath

ive never been so scared but excited in my life....so confusing lol

 

[aimee-lou]

Didn't want to R&R but just wanted to offer some

 

[Rhio92]

It's hard, but you somehow adapt and survive Good luck! x

 

[chels24uk]

my son is older than yours, but im about to become a mum for the second time. Think its normal to get scared. Im incredibly excited to meet this bubba but i do get days where i am absolutely patrified of how im going to cope raising a baby and a 6 year old alone. But thousands of people do it and we can to Perfectly normal to worry about this stuff. Just make sure you accept any help that is on offer.
Also, keep your little boy as involved in the pregnancy as possible. My son talks to his little brother/sister and helps pick out little outfits and hes very excited. Its propbably a bit different for you as your son is younger, but whatever you can do to keep him involved, do good luck xxx

 

[moomin_troll]

thanks zanes very smart for his age so he knows more then i give him credit for. he knows baby corey is in my tummy...he also thinks he has a baby tummy lol hes come to my scans to see him. he knows that the nursery is coreys rooms and that certain things belong to corey and zanes too big.

i grew up with just my mum so i no it can be done and she did a good job. she became a single parents when 8 months pregnant with me and had my older brother who was 6 and mentaly disabled and then my sister who was 3. now she had her hands full

 

[lisabee]

As a single mum to nearly 3 kids (just a week left for baby no.3 to come)

In all honesty - Its hard and its amazing

Some days can be very tedious and you wonder how you get thru them then all of a sudden u realise u have and that day is gone

Its all down to routine and involving older siblings as much as possible once you have conquered that it becomes less daunting and a year will pass and you will wonder why you fretted about it

Raising kids isnt a bed of roses and we dont get a manual but you have done it once you can do it again - and ok FOB may not be around this time but that shouldnt get you down but your doing the most amazing job in the world and thats bringing up kids

Try and relax and think about all the good things that are about to come - all the things you and yours will share - because they grow up way too quickly

 

[jen1604]

you will do just fine sweetheart, it will be hard doing it without your OH but I can tell from your posts that you're such a strong brave lady and you WILL manage. Xxxxxxxx

 

[moomin_troll]

thanks again ladies.

i do think if i had corey before my oh died and i was used to looking after 2 babies id be fine and wouldnt be so woried. think im more scared for zane, hes gone thru so much but hes an amazing little boy and hes been involved in everything ive done and he loves babies.

from the day we decided to try for another baby i was going thru routines in my head of what i could do being alone as my oh was going to be away for the first 6 months of this babies life anyway....i new i was pregnant before the tests did lol

anyway im going on abit now, i always over think everything. you ladies always make me feel better xx

good luck lisabee with the birth of ur baby x

 

[billy2mm]

hunny you and me are army wives - we know how to cope in the worst of situations. we are stronger than the men!! you will be more than fine you will be amazing!!

we cope because we have to and we make it work. my house is always untidy but its clean. my kids arent the tidiest kids but they are presentable and clean even if the clothes are a bit messy after rolling in the grass lol!! you just find what works for you and go with it.

 

[moomin_troll]

the things u have to deal with while married to the army is unreal. but atleast i was used to looking after zane alone before this happened due to oh being away on trainings ect unlike a "normal" wife who had her oh home every night.

ive only been a single mum for 5 months so i need to give myself a break and stop worrying i guess.

on a good note tho zane was at his grans last night again is off again tonight so i have time to just do nothing lol.....well i say nothing ile be doing housework and sorting a army kit out lol

 

[billy2mm]

the things u have to deal with while married to the army is unreal. but atleast i was used to looking after zane alone before this happened due to oh being away on trainings ect unlike a "normal" wife who had her oh home every night.

ive only been a single mum for 5 months so i need to give myself a break and stop worrying i guess.

on a good note tho zane was at his grans last night again is off again tonight so i have time to just do nothing lol.....well i say nothing ile be doing housework and sorting a army kit out lol

just hope there isnt a stray pair of socks at the bottom of the bergen!!!

 

[moomin_troll]

i got a bag of his dirty pants and socks back with his things so they were washed lol
but is it sad of me that i still have 1 pair of dirty socks and a dirty hoody and his cap which is covered in oil and i threatened to wash for 4 yrs lol

 

[billy2mm]

i got a bag of his dirty pants and socks back with his things so they were washed lol
but is it sad of me that i still have 1 pair of dirty socks and a dirty hoody and his cap which is covered in oil and i threatened to wash for 4 yrs lol

its not sad at all hun.

maybe put the socks in a plastic bag though lol.

i used to keep one of my ex'sdirty tshirts and wear it to bed whenever he went away for a while!

 

[moomin_troll]

ive just started putting his clothes in those vaccum sealed bags.
i used to smell his clothes all the time when he was away, glad i wasnt the only one hahah

 

[JessdueJan]

I'm sure you will do just fine hun..from your posts I can tell your a strong, brave lady and your boys are lucky to have a mummy like you

 

[moomin_troll]

I'm sure you will do just fine hun..from your posts I can tell your a strong, brave lady and your boys are lucky to have a mummy like you

thanks

i still cant believe im having another baby, which is why i think its so scary. if it was just me and zane id be perfectly fine about it just being us