Frustrated and confused!

[MissRhead]

Hey I got into contact with who I thought was the farther of baby, and he basically said to me that he was told he couldn't have kids by his doctor because of some steroids he is on right now, he then went on to say that he will be contacting me on Tuesday to arrange going to the clinic his step mum works at to 'sort it out' their is no way in hell am I doing this, but I feel pressurised into it. I'm also thinking maybe I'm abit further along and it's not his, which is possible. I'm so upset, I just feel like running away and never speaking to him again, he told me he's back with his ex wife and that if I want to be with someone eventually it's best to do it his way. I just want to cut myself off from him and never speak to him again, would that be wrong?

 

[bluelilly72]

No I would never talk to him again I would tell him where to go

 

[lilyd]

I would having nothing to do with him. Don't answer the phone to him on Tuesday (or any other day) and certainly don't let him pressurise you into anything.

Your scan won't be far away now and you will get a better idea about dates then. If there is still doubt then you can arrange for DNA tests after LO is born.

He is just thinking about himself and not the welfare of you or the baby. I would text him and tell him you wish to have no further contact, but you will let him know when the baby is born.

Good luck x

 

[MissRhead]

Thankyou, I feel better about doing that now, I didn't know if it would be the wrong thing to do. He wrote to me this morning saying he was sorry if he came across wrong, then went on in the next message to say how bad it will be. I'm just going to leave it I think, I have zero interest in him and he clearly feels the same way so that's fine x

 

[Dream.dream]

I love when men try to deny that their kids are There's , my first dad pulled the I want a DNA test thing when I was pregnant until I said okay and told him how much it cost

And as for steroids making him not have kids , the one I'm currently cooking , his dad had his sperm tested after his cancer treatment and was told he had 3 sperm total and 2 of them were dead and the other dying ( so he was told he was completely sterile) I was on depo as a precaution and guess what I'm still pregnant so it's still possible .

Honestly I would just cut contact with him until he either comes around or baby is born

 

[MissRhead]

Thanks, he's literally just messaged me saying I thought you where going to message me? I'm going to ignore it now, my phone broke and I'm thinking of deleting my Facebook (where he's messaging me) altogether. The only thing is I'm worried he will come to my house! X

 

[lilyd]

Send him a message saying you want no further contact, but that you will inform him when the LO is born x