Frustrated and Sad-venting

[Winniecoop]

Hi All-

Im new here, but Ive been feeling like I really need some support from people who understand what Im going through. My husband and I have been TTC, we are starting our 5th cycle now. Just got af this am . I realize that in the grand scene of things 5 cycles is nothing (and I feel guilty that I am whining about this) but I can't help the overwhelming feeling of sadness I get EVERYTIME I get af. I am 31 and we finally decided to try and this just feels so torturous waiting to get pregnant. We do everything right, I bought a fertility monitor, so it tells me when I ovulate and an additional 5days of fertility based on hormone surges. I also, bought the pre-seed lubricant, and after we have done the deed I use a soft cup to hold the semen inside. I just can't help my frustration. Thanks for letting me vent on here.

 

[Katiehansen12]

I'm sorry you are having a tough time. We've only been really trying 5 months or so but I understand your frustration completely. We try and prevent it for so long that when we are ready we just want it to happen easily! Maybe if you are ovulating and dtd every other day around that time, maybe it wouldn't hurt to get him checked out? It may give you a little reassurance that you guys really are doing everything in your power to make sure things are aligned as they should be, and working. Good luck, our time will come. We just need to be patient and try to stay calm as much as possible. You aren't in this alone.

 

[Jannah K]

Hey hun
I am 31 too on my 5th cycle...a week late with neg bfn...I am really frustrated...I cry every af too
But I realized last cycle that u can do everything in your power from timing to bding to using preseed...there is so much that happens in 2ww in our bodies its truly a miracle...
Keep yourself strong! Think +ve
It will happen for us!!

 

[Jannah K]

Hey hun
I am 31 too on my 5th cycle...a week late with neg bfn...I am really frustrated...I cry every af too
But I realized last cycle that u can do everything in your power from timing to bding to using preseed...there is so much that happens in 2ww in our bodies its truly a miracle...
Keep yourself strong! Think +ve
It will happen for us!!

 

[trumpetbeth]

6th cycle for us... Went to the doctor for my well woman... She decided to do some bloods. I have high testosterone and now I have to have an ultrasound for pcos. I temp, use opk's and pressed. I feel ya!

 

[Jennuuh]

It doesn't matter how long you've been trying - It hurts just like any other "failure." DH and I have been trying for over 6yrs now. It doesn't get any better, and you and your husband will see you at your very worst because of TTC. Hope is what keeps me in the game, and the "what if" it happens this month.

Like someone mentioned above, you should get a analysis for your husband, and even see if you can get an HSG to make sure your tubes are clear. Also, a lot of times after an HSG women get pregnant the next cycle, since the dye pretty much cleans them out.

Good luck, keep your head up, and I have my fingers crossed for you!

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

Agree, it doesn't matter how long you've been trying - it still hurts. You're not alone, and thank goodness for BnB so we can all reach out to ladies who are going through this ttc journey. I'm an emotional mess whenever af shows her ugly face.

As suggested, definitely get the SA done and see if you can get some testing done as well. Best of luck to you, and all the ladies here