Frustrated! (new to board)

[littleGoober]

Hi everyone... to be honest this is my first time posting on any forum so it feels a little strange, but it's nice to finally find some people in the same situation. I have a 2 1/2 year old son who was a complete surprise (I was on birth control) and have now been ttc a second for about a year with no luck. To make matters worse, everyone I know who had a child around the same time as me has either had another, or is currently pregnant. I think my biggest frustration, since I'm the type that likes to plan ahead, is that I have no control over anything. The first kid came before I was ready, and now that I'm really ready for number 2 I can't make it happen.

Sorry for the venting. It's just been building up.

LG

 

[bubbamadness]

Waiting is a really frustrating time. I've got 5 days till my AF is due and the wait is killing me. My first 3 were all unplanned but now i'm planning number 4 it doesnt seem to want to happen. When is your AF due? Fingers crossed this is your month

 

[baby_hopes23]

I'm SOOO sorry to hear about your troubles, I can definitely relate, I too became pregnant while on the pill a few years ago before my husband and I were married, unfortunately that ended in MC, but when we decided we were ready to try, nothing was happening for SO long! The frustration and stress just built up and my AF disappeared altogether, so I finally had to go to my OBGYN and get some assistance. My husband and I went through all the necessary testing to find out we had "unexplained infertility" and my doc of course suspected that the absence of my AF meant no ovulation so she prescribed me Provera to induce my AF and Clomid to induce ovulation and I got my BFP the 1st month I ovulated (3rd month of being on Clomid). I also have a close friend who conceived her first two children with no problem, she had regular cycles and regular ovulation, but needed a "boost" to conceive her 3rd so her doc prescribed a low dose of Clomid and she became pregnant on her 1st cycle!

The good news is that your body has accomplished pregnancy in the past, so one way or another, it can and WILL happen for you again

Hang in there girl! Lots of luck and babydust!!

 

[littleGoober]

Thanks so much for the responses. AF showed up yesterday (2 days late just to keep me guessing). I'm just past the year mark so I haven't tried any medical intervention yet... I think I just assumed it would be easy! I have SO much respect for all you ladies that have been trying for years.

 

[Xpecta]

My son was also unexpected! My goodness, I was 17 and only had graduated the month before! I was NOT ready for a child! But now that we are ready for another and have been trying so hard and Long (Since August 2009) Its just ridiculous that its taking so long. I'm sorry that you're going through that. Everyone that had babies at the same time as me has new ones already. It sucks that I'm so far behind!

How are you doing now?

 

[littleGoober]

Hey, still doing the same. AF showed up this morning... and friends just announced yesterday that they were expecting which is frustrating, but I'm trying not to be jealous! I really appreciate the understanding. I've gotten so many "at least you have one" comments that I haven't told most people that we're still trying.

 

[Xpecta]

That is really hard I'm sorry that you have to go through that. Seriously, I'm SO Sick of people saying that to me! Or the "Just appreciate what you have" Like I'm thinking "You know, I think I'm done with my son, I want the newer model!" I mean seriously!! Oy...Sorry, just a little upset that its so hard to have a freaking child!