gender disappointment

[greelow]

I have 2 boys and have always wanted a little girl. I have a close relationship with my mom and would love to have that with my daughter. Plus I am a string willed woman and a currently a second level manager of 32people team in an organization dominated by man. I would love to nurture a daughter who will grow up to be like me as well.

Here I am pregnant again at 15 weeks. Found out last week that this little one Will most likely be a boy again. So here I am in denial and almost disbelief. I know I will love him no matter what but I can't help but feel my dreams will never come true. I am 34 and I think it will be too late for me to try for the fourth one. And no guarantee it will be a girl next time too.

I don't know. Just ranting I guess.

 

[Charliejones]

Gender disappointment is a common thing and nothing to be ashamed of, we all cover it up with the quote "as long as its healthy I don't mind" but I think deep down we do know what we would like especially if it's 2nd or like yourself 3rd pregnancy.

I would like a girl this time and even when ppl tell me they it's a boy my heart sinks a little, sometimes I feel selfish because every pregnancy is a blessing but no one can help how we feel.

Every baby is different so even if u had a girl she may grow up to be some1 completely different than what u had in mind, u will love ur baby no matter what and nothing will change the moment u lay eyes on him for the first time. Sorry I can't be much help but I know how u feel xx

 

[BabyLuv88]

I really want a boy because I already have 2 girls... still dont know the gender but I would really love if its a boy

 

[MeaganMackenz]

^^ I am in that boat. I have two beautiful and healthy girls and am currently just under a month from finding out baby number 3. I want a boy, hubby really wants a boy. I'm terrified a bit to find out I don't want to be disappointed with a girl and I know as much as he loves his girls hubby wants the final baby to be a boy. He'd be disappointed Healthy is always number one, but after the first or second baby gender comes in at a close second.

 

[greelow]

Thanks for everyone's reply. I do feel better nowadays but deep inside still hanging to the hope that the ultrasound could be wrong. I do want this baby very much regardless of what gender just that I can't let go of my dreams of becoming a mother to a little daughter that I longed for since I was young.

 

[madseasons]

It's totally normal. YES we all want healthy, so please no trolls, but we also have that picture in our head of how we see our lives, and get jolted when it changes.

I wanted another boy, and was certain I was having a little brother for our son, then we found out at early from the MaterniT21 test and then at the 20 week scan that we are indeed having a girl. Hubby and I both took a step back, but we got used to the idea real quick because DS wanted a little sister SO bad, so that helped up move along being we made HIM happy and now we are TOO!

Feeling this way doesn't mean you won't have love at first sight, just that you expected and wanted different

Keep you chin up! Everything happens for a reason!

Dee