I know how brilliant you all are on here with advice so I thought I would ask.
I have a brilliant friend who has been my friend for about 4 years now. It started off with us just talking a bit and then when I started seeing FOB we didn't speak at all. FOB didn't get on with him as he does smoke quite a bit of weed to relax him. We "lost" contact. Basically FOB would not pass on messages to me from him as he was jealous and just made everything awkward. However when I was pregnant he saw me at my car and came over and talked. We swapped numbers and promised to keep in better contact this time. Mainly because FOB was not around to mess things up. He texted me a lot when I was pregnant but when we met up it was always awkward and the only thing we ended up talking about was me being pregnant. It was like the bump reminded him that I was having FOB's baby. Around the time before Ollie was born I still had exams and was really busy so we didn't talk as much. Once Ollie was born he came over one day to see him. It was one of the first days I was alone with Ollie for the whole day while everyone was at work. He stayed for the whole day and really helped me out with Ollie. He (even though he isn't a big fan of children) is very good with them. It seemed like after I had Ollie and FOB went off to uni all the awkwardness between us went away. Over the last month and a bit we have been getting a little bit more flirty when we see each other. About 2 weeks ago -the day before FOB decided to leave uni and start seeing Ollie- we kissed in his car (he was giving me a lift back from work). It all ended well but then FOB came back and knocked on my door the next morning. I never got the chance to call him all week as I was really busy with sorting out custody and money with FOB. He seems to always ruin things for me! I spoke with him at the end of last week and explained everything and he said that he really wants a relationship and asked me what I wanted. I told him that it was really complicated for me at the moment to commit 100% to a relationship and that would be unfair. So we said that we should be friends. Then on Saturday when all the snow came down I texted him to see if he got home alright (he was working) he never texted me back until 3.30pm Sunday. I actually felt really worried for him, I thought he crashed his car and was hurt or had been snowed in some where. It has really made me think that I do like him. It is just so unfair to bring him into the whole madness that is my life. I want him there but does he really wanna be a second Dad, having to deal with FOB all the time and having to realise that I am not free until late evening and then I have to stay home incase my son wants me.
It feels good to get all this out of my head! I sometimes feel like I don't deserve to have a relationship when I have so many things going on and I think that FOB makes it near impossible to get close to another guy. He isn't even I guy that I would normally go for! He is just so sweet and caring. I don't wanna hurt him. Maybe it is best just to stay friends?
I have a brilliant friend who has been my friend for about 4 years now. It started off with us just talking a bit and then when I started seeing FOB we didn't speak at all. FOB didn't get on with him as he does smoke quite a bit of weed to relax him. We "lost" contact. Basically FOB would not pass on messages to me from him as he was jealous and just made everything awkward. However when I was pregnant he saw me at my car and came over and talked. We swapped numbers and promised to keep in better contact this time. Mainly because FOB was not around to mess things up. He texted me a lot when I was pregnant but when we met up it was always awkward and the only thing we ended up talking about was me being pregnant. It was like the bump reminded him that I was having FOB's baby. Around the time before Ollie was born I still had exams and was really busy so we didn't talk as much. Once Ollie was born he came over one day to see him. It was one of the first days I was alone with Ollie for the whole day while everyone was at work. He stayed for the whole day and really helped me out with Ollie. He (even though he isn't a big fan of children) is very good with them. It seemed like after I had Ollie and FOB went off to uni all the awkwardness between us went away. Over the last month and a bit we have been getting a little bit more flirty when we see each other. About 2 weeks ago -the day before FOB decided to leave uni and start seeing Ollie- we kissed in his car (he was giving me a lift back from work). It all ended well but then FOB came back and knocked on my door the next morning. I never got the chance to call him all week as I was really busy with sorting out custody and money with FOB. He seems to always ruin things for me! I spoke with him at the end of last week and explained everything and he said that he really wants a relationship and asked me what I wanted. I told him that it was really complicated for me at the moment to commit 100% to a relationship and that would be unfair. So we said that we should be friends. Then on Saturday when all the snow came down I texted him to see if he got home alright (he was working) he never texted me back until 3.30pm Sunday. I actually felt really worried for him, I thought he crashed his car and was hurt or had been snowed in some where. It has really made me think that I do like him. It is just so unfair to bring him into the whole madness that is my life. I want him there but does he really wanna be a second Dad, having to deal with FOB all the time and having to realise that I am not free until late evening and then I have to stay home incase my son wants me.
It feels good to get all this out of my head! I sometimes feel like I don't deserve to have a relationship when I have so many things going on and I think that FOB makes it near impossible to get close to another guy. He isn't even I guy that I would normally go for! He is just so sweet and caring. I don't wanna hurt him. Maybe it is best just to stay friends?
