Giving birth first time nearly killed me, would you home birth with second??

[roomaloo]

My first birth was very similar to yours and I'm booked in for a home birth. The midwives were really supportive of my decision

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Thanks hun, that's good to hear I think they'll look whether I shall or not closer to the time :/ xx

 

[Mummy Bean]

Im currently reading ' the birthing companion' by NIcole Croft. and found it entlightening about intervention....and how to aim for a more positive invesntion free (or reduced) labour.

I wud either go for the home birth...coz like u say they can always call an ambulance or compromise for a birthing centre?

Hope u get the birth u want.

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Thanks ladies.
Well midwife came round and she said a home birth is out of the question because im a small lady, had a big baby and had a post partum haemorrhage
So disappointed.

What would you ladies do?? Still go ahead with a home birth?

 

[Pearls18]

Thanks ladies.
Well midwife came round and she said a home birth is out of the question because im a small lady, had a big baby and had a post partum haemorrhage
So disappointed.

What would you ladies do?? Still go ahead with a home birth?

I'm sure you have read somewhere that they can't deny you a home birth, they are obliged to support you and can not force you to go to hospital. I don't know enough about your medical condition to say what I would do, I would talk to a consultant about whether the last birth was an isolated incident or not. The important thing is that your decision is informed, and not pressured.

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Yeah I read that they cant refuse you either :/ so confusing of what to do

 

[BunnyN]

Maybe ask more questions about what their specific concerns are. You have to be savy because despite what they may say some MWs and docs just don't really support HB and are basically just looking for excuses but if there is real reason for concern obviously you want to know. It sounds to me like your problems were more to do with baby getting stuck at a funny angle followed by too much intervention.

I know I had a wonderful HB experience. We hired a independent MW but there is no way a NHS MW would have been happy about me havning a HB. You just need to understand their concerns and if you don't agree stand your ground.

 

[xxxjessxxx]

yeah apparently its just because of having a big baby and bleeding so much. She was the same woman I had at the start with Enolah (but changed after) and when mentioned then that I wanted a homebirth with Enolah she didn't seem keen, and just said see what the situations like ahead of time. So I think she may not be keen.
I spoke to the midwife I swapped to with Enolah though and she said she doesn't see why not, she had a homebirth with hers and its lovely, but see how things are nearer the end, so I reckon its just this midwifes opinion