~ Vicky ~
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Heyy. I mentioned this briefly in the 'Check-in time' thread, but since i've been away for a little while on holiday and what not, I thought i'd give a little update on what's been going on over here. A lot has happened!
Firstly, every bit of contact between dickface and myself is now over. I deleted his mobile numbers and stuff over a month ago, but I still had his email and was still holding out hope he'd contact me to find out what's going on with our princess. He never did but then one day I got a message through Facebook from his girlfriend basically telling me to back off and leave him alone. SORRY?? I hadn't even spoken to him for about 2 weeks at that point and never ever hassled him. But whatever. That incident really peed me off so I mailed dickface and told him to back off himself and if he had any issues then he should tell me himself and not send his lapdog. Honestly!
Anyway, her message kept playing on my mind as did Dickfaces behaviour, so about 2 weeks ago I sat in front of the computer for about 2 hours writing him a longggg email. I wasn't nasty, nor did I exaggerate any circumstances. I basically told him i'd had a long hard think and while I was gutted he didn't want contact with our daughter, i've now accepted that fact and i'm going to do this 100% alone. I've sorted out my finances and been working my butt off for the last month so i'm never going to be asking him for money and the only contact he will ever get with Ava is if HE contacts me. I'm never EVER going to go running to him.
Then I basically told him I finally realised it's not the sperm that makes a Dad.. it's the love care and devotion shown to a child that qualifies you as a Dad and none of those apply to him. Then I told him I hope he's happy with his life choices, because i'm damn happy with mine, and I hope if one day Ava goes looking for him, he'll explain just why he didn't want her in his life. He's not going on the birth certificate either!
2 weeks have passed since I sent that, and I know he's read it.. but he's not replied so that's that. He's made his decision and i've made mine. He's completely out my life and i've finally got to the point where i'm very happy with that!
Second piece of news - i'm dating! It all happened very randomly - Ryan knows my Mum and we met on the bus (of all places) and got chatting when he asked if my Mum was indeed my Mum. A few days later he texted me as he managed to aquire my number, we got talking then went out. I was nervous, because I haven't been close to a guy since dickface and I broke up and obv I felt uncomfortable because of Ava, but he completely doesn't mind and I genuinely believe him when he says that. We've been out a lot and speak most days, he's wonderful. Just what I need right now.
I didn't believe guys like Ryan existed, but they do! There's hope for everyone.
So all in all i'm extremely happy at the moment
Firstly, every bit of contact between dickface and myself is now over. I deleted his mobile numbers and stuff over a month ago, but I still had his email and was still holding out hope he'd contact me to find out what's going on with our princess. He never did but then one day I got a message through Facebook from his girlfriend basically telling me to back off and leave him alone. SORRY?? I hadn't even spoken to him for about 2 weeks at that point and never ever hassled him. But whatever. That incident really peed me off so I mailed dickface and told him to back off himself and if he had any issues then he should tell me himself and not send his lapdog. Honestly!
Anyway, her message kept playing on my mind as did Dickfaces behaviour, so about 2 weeks ago I sat in front of the computer for about 2 hours writing him a longggg email. I wasn't nasty, nor did I exaggerate any circumstances. I basically told him i'd had a long hard think and while I was gutted he didn't want contact with our daughter, i've now accepted that fact and i'm going to do this 100% alone. I've sorted out my finances and been working my butt off for the last month so i'm never going to be asking him for money and the only contact he will ever get with Ava is if HE contacts me. I'm never EVER going to go running to him.
Then I basically told him I finally realised it's not the sperm that makes a Dad.. it's the love care and devotion shown to a child that qualifies you as a Dad and none of those apply to him. Then I told him I hope he's happy with his life choices, because i'm damn happy with mine, and I hope if one day Ava goes looking for him, he'll explain just why he didn't want her in his life. He's not going on the birth certificate either!
2 weeks have passed since I sent that, and I know he's read it.. but he's not replied so that's that. He's made his decision and i've made mine. He's completely out my life and i've finally got to the point where i'm very happy with that!
Second piece of news - i'm dating! It all happened very randomly - Ryan knows my Mum and we met on the bus (of all places) and got chatting when he asked if my Mum was indeed my Mum. A few days later he texted me as he managed to aquire my number, we got talking then went out. I was nervous, because I haven't been close to a guy since dickface and I broke up and obv I felt uncomfortable because of Ava, but he completely doesn't mind and I genuinely believe him when he says that. We've been out a lot and speak most days, he's wonderful. Just what I need right now.
I didn't believe guys like Ryan existed, but they do! There's hope for everyone.
So all in all i'm extremely happy at the moment
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