going back to the ex?

[skitzo]

My ex and I were together for six years before I had my son. We were highschool sweethearts and I had my son at nineteen. When my son was almost here the guy I was with cheated on me. Then came back. Then he proposed to me. Every thing was dandy. My son was almost five months old when my ex told me it was over. Baby is two now and I have a new bf who's great with my son but my ex wants me back and has been really persistent. Am I crazy for not wanting to go back. But I feel guilty because I feel like I'm preventing my son a better life with two parents..its. been killing me to the point where I think getting. Back together with him regardless of my major insecurities with my ex - he put me thru absolute hell with other girls. I don't know what I should do. Am I being selfish. Or iss sucking it up worth it if my son gets a better life

 

[Dream.dream]

I don't think 2 parents need to be together for a child to have a good life or to have 2 parents. If co parentin is done week a child doesn't miss out on anything

Personally I don't think it's worth it . What he put you through isn't likely to change and you'll probably go through the same all over with you ex . Even though it's hard because when you have a hold with someone that bond is always there but it doesn't mean you should be together .

I always look at it that if I wouldn't want my son to grow up to be exactly like the man I'm with then I shouldn't be with them because that's exactly what will happen.

 

[Beanonorder]

You are in absolutely no way being selfish! Please don't think that for a second! You are not crazy for not wanting to go back - you're crazy for thinking that maybe you should suck it up!
If you are have insecurities with your ex they aren't going to get any better and its going to end up affecting you and your life. And in the end that is going to affect your son. Kids are a lot smarter than we often give them credit for and he is going to pick up that something is not right.
Please please please don't think your son is going to have a better life just because is his parents are together. You are lucky to have a good guy now who is great with your son. Trust me, that will be better for your son than you making yourself unhappy by being with someone that you don't want to be with.

 

[lovejoy]

Do not go back, it will be the same sh*t different day senerio.
You're ex doesn't want you back, seriously it's been almost three, it's because you have a new boyfriend, that's the only reason his developed loving feeling out of the blue.
He had his chance , he blew it, end of story. Your son wants a stable mum and dad that doesn't mean you have to be together.

 

[skitzo]

Thanks u all have helped a lot. Its hard letting him go because we shared so Many years together and it is tough raising my son on my own. Hes an active parent in my sons life and I'm greatful for that. I don't really know how too let him down. I don't. Like hurting people. But or input helps thanks all

 

[taylor197878]

I wouldn't go bk I did it so many times with my ex for the kids sake even though a didn't want to be with him but a wanted ma kids to have there parents and it doesn't work I ended up resenting him my elder kids were unhappy I spend 16 years with him 10 of them fighting to save something that just wasn't working.

now a c that the kids are happier us apart than us fighting and resenting each other,