Going from 1 to 2. Any advice?

[wtbmummy]

Not really sure if I should post in baby club or toddler group but any advice welcome
We already have ds who is 3 end of the month and dd is due in April. We like the age gap as ds very much understands (to a point of course) and is excited about having a sister. He loves my friends baby and is so caring of her. I just know he will be a great big brother. Yes I know there will be some issues of transition for him but im confident at how he will be with his sister (for the most part)

My issue is how will I cope?? Ds still wakes in the night and has night terrors.
He is of course a normal demanding 3yr old. He has preschool 2 whole days a week and by then a morning session also.
I just cant see myself dealing with a baby throughout the night and then getting up with ds in the morning. On 3days then doing the school run and the other two trying to entertain ds and dd whilst doing everything else that needs doing.

I feel like im in over my head as even now im constantly exhausted at 25w let alone later on and then once doing night feeds.

I do suffer with Anxiety disorder also so I know that I may be worrying more than most would but I still cant shake this feeling I will struggle. We have no family around at all to help and dh works 50-80hours pw so i will be doing this mostly alone.

Any advice please to calm my nerves and get me to see the possible light???

Thank you

 

[Eleanor ace]

You will be fine! . The fact that your DS is at nursery will be a massive help as it will give you time to rest with LO if you're tired, catch up on stuff around the house and catch your breath a bit! I've found that whenever I have another child I find extra time I didn't know I had and get better at multi tasking. Before you know it having 2 children will be your normal.
My DD (2nd LO) was a terrible sleeper. She was 2.4 when DD2 was born and waking at least hourly. The day DD2 was born DD1 started sleeping, now nearly 16 months later she is still sleeping through and is my best sleeper. I panicked a lot about the sleep thing but it can turn out awesome! And even if it doesn't, the sleepless nights won't last forever and you've got this far, you can keep going! And enjoy the nights when your LO's are grown and you get to sleep through so much more

 

[Pearls18]

My main advice would be if he uses his 15 hours continue to do so, it's great for them to still have the stimulation of nursery when you're going to be preoccupied, the routine is nice for them and you then get some time alone to bond with baby. I HATE the baby stage but even I can say the jump from 1 to 2 is nothing like the jump from 0-1!!! We had a 3 year gap and I found it perfect.