Going it alone and TERRIFIED :(

[Sadie26]

Hi girlies, 1st post so hope am posting in right place!

I was casually seeing the guy for about 7-8 months, although i pretty much fell for him hard , just after xmas i found out i was pregnant. I told him over a text message as we wernt speaking and he wouldnt take my calls- he ignored me for about 2 weeks. I persuaded him to meet up with me so we could talk and he asked me what i was planning on doing. I told him i was keeping the baby and all he said was "safe as long as you stay where you are" ( hes from birmingham im from cardiff) and no morewas said, me being stupid continued seeing him and last week he was calling me non stop asking me to see him so i did, the next night i tried calling and he told me he didnt want to speak then sent a message telling me he didnt like me and he wanted nothing to do with me and not to call/text him aga then blocked my number, i was so upset i got one of my friends to message him and he basically just turned really nasty saying he was going to shoot her ect! I cannot believe this, i cannot beleive i have been so stupid how did i not see him for what he was? He has 5 kids already and Im 9 weeks pregnant now and feel soo alone, my family are very supportive and so are my friends but id just like to know are there any other single mums out there that manage fine without tbe father around full stop? And do i even contact him again or what? I know i should hate him but it hurts so bad at the monent x sorry for the life story! X

 

[teal]

Awww sweetie sending you massive hugs

I have absolutely no contact with FOB. He broke up with me when I told him I was pregnant and I've not seen him since June 2009.

I know it's a hard thought now but you'll be absolutely fine xx

 

[Dezireey]

I'm sorry that he has done that to you, that is harsh and it is upsetting

It sounds like he is an irresponsible person and that's how you need to look at things. You are better off without someone like that in your life.Plenty of women go it alone and are successful and happy single mums. You just have to stay positive, do what is best for you and forget the loser.

My FOB abandoned me and even though he is back to responding to my texts now and being nice, I still can't stand what he has done and will never,ever forgive him for it. It is an unforgivable action, a dealbreaker and that is why we have to move on from men like this, they are not nice people.

 

[BadassMom]

Only you can decide what is the right thing to do, but if it was me I wouldn't bother contacting him again if he's just going to be abusive. It sounds like you and your child will be better off without him. Stay strong and try to keep your mind off him, even though that's really hard to do.

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

i'd consider contacting him just before you're due, see whether he wants to be there. If not, his loss hun! There's plenty of help & support out there for single parents x

 

[ilove3baby]

What an asshole! I wouldnt contact him at all...he has your number and if he ever decides to grow up then he can contact you...I raised my DD by myself and plan on raising this one by myself. Message me if you ever need to talk! Hugs and Take care!!