Going round In circles please help!

[x.kim.x.b]

Hiya people Ok im very new to this so please bare with me lol I dont know any of the code words on here either lol
Ok so here it goes Im 22 and my Partner is 20 we have been together for seven years now and have been trying to conceive for just over a year!
We went to see my gp after eight months and she wanted to do a sperm test and a day 21 blood test, Sperm test come back very normal but my test came back I was not Ovulating so she transferred me to johnradcliffe oxford hospital to have furthur tests under there infertilty ward!
So After waiting a long two months to get a appointment we finally arrived at oxford hospital (which by the way is a hour away from me by car and we dont drive) we saw my consultant and I explained that I had been doing clearblue ovulation tests for the whole year of trying and only two months came back negative so he advised I have another blood test to check again which I was happy about! What I was not happy about was that he informed if I ovulate he would do nothing for three years apart from a check on my fallopian tubes! He was very very rude to me and my partner and dont think he liked my age to much, so in other words he said your young get on with it! I am soooooo annoyed and I dont know what to do now I had my blood test at my gps today so waiting for results on that again but surly that cant be just it for three years with no help or tests! Please help getting very stressed out and driving every one insane haha! x

 

[newgirl79]

Hey,

Sounds like you got a typical consultant then!! Suppose that's a bit unfair as sure some are really good but I do find the higher up the medical chain you go the less helpful people can sometimes be!

Surely your age is nothing to do with it but I think the length of time you have been trying probably is. I have recently been told that my local PCT/NHS have changed their rules and won't be offering any fertility testing or treatment until you've been ttc for 2 years. Certainly after one year you'd be very unlikely to get any help- this is due to the fact that a significant number of people who don't fall pregnant in the first year will do in the second....really frustrating I know!!

Know it's hard to stay positive but maybe just try to console yourself with the thought that it's actually pretty normal to be trying for a year or more- it doesn't always seem that way but just because it's not happened yet doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong- particularly if all your tests come back ok. fingers crossed for you xx

 

[Candystripes]

Hiya.......

It shouldn't matter re your age, it's a heartbreaking ordeal when all you want is a baby and some doctors just don't understand and the waiting for appointments etc just makes you feel like it's precious time lost and every female you see is either pregnant or pushing a pram! I know all too well!! I've been ttc for over 6 years and not one dr has helped me!! I even registered in different addresses (family members) to see different doctors but yet none seem to see my pain, frustration and pointed me in the right direction, other than offer me anti depressants!!! Like their going to help me fall pregnant!!

I know it's probably not the answer you want and won't help but I ended up going to see a private doctor and have kicked myself why I didn't soot sooner.....she has given me answers that I have been searching for for years!! I just pray I have a positive outcome.....and it is so unfortunate but I've found you get what you pay for.

She has started me on metformin to help with certain issues and I just pray it does something.........

I do wish you all the best xxx

 

[confuzzled]

hi im having similar problems not been reffered but dr an asshole!
a lovely lady introduced to me the NICE guidelines thats actually what its called! if you google nice guidlines fertility you will find it it is a pdf thing
its really helpful and really if you are known to have problems they have to treat you straight away even after 6 moths, but really if you havent conceived after a year they start looking and testing and its after two years that they take it more seriously and start thinking ivf so you can still have tests after a year just not ivf?!
good luck and if you see him again be blunt say why you want a baby how its effecting you emotionally and explain your understanding about having a child he will soon realise hes being ageist!! if this doesnt work tell him hes ageist and it falls under the discrimination act hell soon test you for anyhting you want sounds harsh but my theory is if people are nice to you treat them nice if they are shit to you then be as difficult as possible!

 

[x.kim.x.b]

Thank you for all your replys all really helpful, and nice to know im not the only one going though this! Just soooooo frustrating lol, Im going to make appointment with my gp again and explain what happened cuz she is a star and see what she thinks and if she thinks he is right!

Thank you Again!!
xxx