Got my BFP today and told my Mum.

[philly_bear24]

Hia everyone! I'm new here and my name's Philly, I'm 16 years old and got my BFP today. I hadn't really been expecting it as I'd been on the pill but I was happy aswell as any baby is a blessing in my book really.

I did the test at my boyfriend's house and then told my mum when I got home. She was surprisingly calm which I was obviously happy about but she also said she'd 'support me in whatever descision but thinks it best to get rid of it'.

I really do not have a clue what to do. I still live at home and am at 6th form. My boyfriend and I both want to keep it but my mum is making it seem like I'm ruining her life!

Just need some support really girls!

 

[nikky0907]

Hi,welcome to BnB!

Obviously your mom can't make you do anything you don't want to so. She's just worried and shocked I think but since she also stated that she will support your decision then I honestly think you have nothing to worry about.
You haven't ruined your life obviously,it's gonna be very hard though. It's gonna be hard on your relationship,your dreams and your sleep
But if you and your bf are 100 % commited and ready to work your butts off then you can do this.
Parents come around,don't worry.Even my stone-cold parents came around after my daughter was born...

Good luck!

 

[philly_bear24]

Thanks hun! Suppose you're right it's totally my descision at the end of the day. I really do want to keep it, just wish they wouldn't make me feel bad!

 

[Becky]

Just wanted to say congratulations! I know how your feeling and your mum will say she is only saying what is best for you but your the only person that knows best, your body and your baby just remember that however hard people make your situation! x

 

[tasha41]

Hun, congratulations. You should be proud of yourself for telling your mum so quickly, it took me a whole month to find the courage to tell my parents.

Also, like the other girls said, it's your decision to make. My dad wanted me to have an abortion and I understand my parents know what it's like to have a child and want what's best for me.. but they acted like complete idiots with me for a little bit. First, my dad would always ask me if I had made up my mind about the abortion (when I told him immediately I wasn't going to do it), and then he got my mum to ask me about it.. even though she didn't agree with it, and he talked to my sister asking her if she thought I'd go through with one.

I'm sorry but if I was going to have an abortion I'd just do it and not put myself through the stress of telling my parents I was pregnant in the first place, as I'm 18, not close with them and I like to think I'm fairly independent, usually.. I actually got to the clinic and saw the social worker, she told me if her daughter was pregnant that she'd tell her to get rid of it. I was crying in her office and she just told me she thought I should go through with it.

My point is.. people will try to make you feel like it's the right thing to do. That it's "what's best for you" and that "it's not fair to the baby" for you to bring it into the world.

If you stick to your guns though, people back off, eventually. My dad is still an asshole to me but he's been a jerk for as long as I can remember. My mom is really excited, and my health care providers have been amazing. I have a great support system; and I'm detirmined to get through this pregnancy, to raise my child "right", and make something out of my life.. no matter how hard it'll be and regardless of how the odds are stacked.

This site is full of girls who are doing it, and you can too

 

[TashaAndBump]

Hun, congratulations. You should be proud of yourself for telling your mum so quickly, it took me a whole month to find the courage to tell my parents.

Also, like the other girls said, it's your decision to make. My dad wanted me to have an abortion and I understand my parents know what it's like to have a child and want what's best for me.. but they acted like complete idiots with me for a little bit. First, my dad would always ask me if I had made up my mind about the abortion (when I told him immediately I wasn't going to do it), and then he got my mum to ask me about it.. even though she didn't agree with it, and he talked to my sister asking her if she thought I'd go through with one.

I'm sorry but if I was going to have an abortion I'd just do it and not put myself through the stress of telling my parents I was pregnant in the first place, as I'm 18, not close with them and I like to think I'm fairly independent, usually.. I actually got to the clinic and saw the social worker, she told me if her daughter was pregnant that she'd tell her to get rid of it. I was crying in her office and she just told me she thought I should go through with it.

My point is.. people will try to make you feel like it's the right thing to do. That it's "what's best for you" and that "it's not fair to the baby" for you to bring it into the world.

If you stick to your guns though, people back off, eventually. My dad is still an asshole to me but he's been a jerk for as long as I can remember. My mom is really excited, and my health care providers have been amazing. I have a great support system; and I'm detirmined to get through this pregnancy, to raise my child "right", and make something out of my life.. no matter how hard it'll be and regardless of how the odds are stacked.

This site is full of girls who are doing it, and you can too

Well said!

 

[loz]

congratulations. its ur life and your baby so its your decision. if your happy and want your baby then do not listen to anyone who tries telling you you will ruin your life because i got told this off my parents at 17 but she is my life and they are now glad i chose to have her. she is 5 now and i have still done all the things i would of done if i did not have her. x x

 

[philly_bear24]

Aww thanks girls you made me feel so much better about it! Spoke to my boyfriend last night and he is 100% sure he wants it and really really doesn't want me to abort it so I'm just gonna stick to my guns now!

Yayyy can't wait to start getting excited!!!

 

[Laura--x]

Good on you for sticking to your guns hun! Congrats on your BFP and well done for being so strong in telling ur parents so quickly!!

ANY parent i know would not want their 16 year old girl having her own baby! It's a fact of life, and many parents will ultimately want them to abort it, they want the best for you and your life, they would want you to get a good career with well paid wages so you can always do what you want in life.

But NOTHING or NOONE is to say this still can't happen when you have a baby! Its obvious you want to keep him/her, you and your boyfriend know whats best for you so tbh no-one elses opinion matters in this! Aslong as you are both happy and are willing to give the best for your baby, you'll be great parents

xx

 

[philly_bear24]

Went to the doctors today and the midwife is going to phone me soon to get an appointment!!! SOOO excited!!! Thanks for all your support xxxxx.

 

[Beth_18]

congratssss x

 

[ajarvis]

Congratulations

 

[Laura--x]

Congrats xx

 

[Pinkgirl]

Congratulations hun
I bet you sooooo excited, i am sure you will find lots of support on bnb the ladies are lovely xx

 

[kellysays2u]

CONGRATZ! Have an amazing time at your midwife appt. Dont let anyone pressure you into anything you dont want to do. How far along abouts do you think you are? I got pregnant on the pill to and my parents wanted me to have an abortion as well as my bf originally actually but now we are both extremely excited as well as my parents are about having this baby and I am 26 weeks along. Its exciting but you have to be strong in the beginning when your younger as not everyone is as excited as you are.

 

[philly_bear24]

I think im 6+4 now but I need to check that with the midwife when I see her! My mum is coming round to the idea now and is actually starting to get a bit excited YAY! xxx.

 

[Carlyanne15]

Honey firstly Congrats! Seems like you and you BF are really happy and good for you! Its a big thing all this pregnancy lark and telling your Mum must of been tricky regardless on what you thought she would say!
I imagine she is Just in SHOCK!! Afteral your still her baby! I'm 29 and i'm still my Mum;s Baby! Which she like to mention. The fact i have a house, mortgage, fantastic job! Engaged and have no financial assistance. I'm still her little baby! So i can see your mum see you like that and would wont what she assumes as the best for YOU\1

However thats all fair and well but remember you DO what you think and Want!! Dont be bullied into anything and if your worried speak with you GP or someone at your School!

Good luck honey!!
Wish you all the very best for the future xxx

 

[Sophie1205]

I got pregnant when I was in 6th form and my mum was exactly the same - didnt want me to keep the baby. I finished 6th form and came away with 3 good grade A Levels ..
Now my baby boy is 4 weeks old and my Mum loves him to pieces!
I think your mum will come around to the idea, my mum went absolutely MENTAL when I told her i was pregnant and now she wants to see my baby everyday!

Good luck hun & congrats

xx