got upset at appointment

[teal]

I got upset at my appointment today. I'm not sure if it because I was in the waiting room by myself with a few other couples but I seen a midwife today I hadn't seen before and she asked about the father. I just said that he broke up with me because I refused to have a termination. Then I just started crying.

It always sounds really harsh and I hadn't had to say it for a while so maybe that's why it just got to me.

Speaking of the ex. He sent me an email on Monday night to tell me he has a new bebo account No mention of the baby at all. I checked to make sure it wasn't just an automated one but it wasn't.

I didn't reply. I just deleted it.

xx

 

[lou_w34]

Awwww hun!
Dnt worry, we all need to cry at times! There there to look after you anyways, so im sure she was fine about it

God they are so stupid at times, i think its a good thing you didnt reply, makes him think that you dont care and arnt bothered what he does!

Hope you feel better soon!

 

[tinkerbellita]

sorry to hear, I also get the same having to talk about fob. It really hurts. xxxxx

 

[sweetlullaby]

Its ok to have a god cry now and again!!

My midwife knew a bit about FOB etc and when she came out for the house visit she asked about it and i was kinna reluctant to talk about him but she told me to go ahead and say whatever was on my mind and i ended up pouring out everything! all my worries and fears etc it felt so good to get it all out and she was lovely I actually could adopt my midwife and keep her

Thats so typical of him sending an email and not even asking about LO....i got the same through text messages. Its so mind boggling and confusing! xx

 

[purpledahlia]

crying is good! If you bottle it up it will only become more overwhelming and you will ultimately get more upset.
The midwives should know that this happens and im sure she was kind about it??

One thing i would suggest is when you meet your HV tell her the story frist time and then its done, you will see the same woman all the time and the better you two know each other the more supportive she can ultimately be.

Dont feel bad for crying! I cried last time i was up at hospital because of the itching and tiredness etc and the midwife was like... ooh its tough isnt it, yes it bloody is woman give me a sweep NOW!! well, i said it in my head.

chin up! x

 

[teal]

Thanks for all the replies girls

Yes the midwife was lovely about it.

I'll remember to tell the HV about the situation the first time I meet her! xx

 

[suzanne108]

it can all get a bit overwhelming sometimes. Especially when you're sat in a waiting room with all the happy couples...but I take comfort in the fact that I know I'm not the only one in this situation (not that I revel in the fact you ladies are lol, just nice to know I'm not alone!) and I know my baby will be as loved and happy as anyone elses.

My MWs have never asked about the father...it says in the front of my notes that we're not together. Good advice from someone to tell the health visitor on the first visit xxx