GP's comment!!!!!!

[pixielou]

I went to the gP the other day to discuss TTc and she was talking about the irony of the whole thing and that it was hard for some women to conceive whilst she would get teenagers through the door who had had a bottle of plonk at the weekend and had fallen pregnant!

Then she went on to say ( as a throw away comment ) that we should get ourselves a kitten or a dog. I said that I would love to but we live in a flat and are always at work then she replied that we should get a hamster, can you believe it!!!!!

The thing is I find when people make these kind of comments that part of is a bit hurt but part of me understands that they mean well. But a doctor saying this!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Mynxie]

that's just nasty

 

[Wobbles]

Coz a pet solves your problems? I'm shocked anyone suggests this when the subject of TTC is being had! I got my kitty half way through my jouney but that was something I wanted not because it was suggested whist I was TTC'ing!

Madness! x

 

[polo_princess]

She was probably trying to be nice in her own little way it just came out completely wrong and in the wrong situation hun

 

[wannabmum]

So sorry u had to hear those comments huni, people mean well but don't realise sometimes there comments are so hurtful

xxxxx

 

[CurlySue]

The people who say get a kitten or a dog believe we just want something to love; that we can deflect our emotions, that we can thrust them upon an animal and that will be enough.

It's not enough.

I have a cat that I love dearly but I'm still desperate for a child.

It's insensitive. And, it plays down our problems.

I can't believe your doctor said that.

 

[FJL]

Thats awful!!!

Dr's of all people should have tact and should know what is and isn't appropriate suggestions, and a pet to substitute a baby is NOT appropriate.

God, I have 6 horses, 6 dogs and a string of pet sheep and cows and as much as I dearly love them, they could never fill the void I have for a child.

 

[pixielou]

Yep just to show they are so de-sensitised from the whole thing! X

 

[CareBear]

I sometimes wonder how some people get to be doctors I'm sure she meant it kindly but it is such a tactless thing to say

 

[Rumpskin]

mmm, not the most helpful of comments

 

[JASMAK]

What the hell? Is she referring to replacing your wanted child with a hamster??? That lady is a bitch and is as stupid as sin! Sorry you had to hear that. (hugs)

 

[emmie]

Dnt get me started on doctors grrrrr i went at 24 weeks cos i felt a bit down with an achy back etc and he was like well termination is'nt an option here but we could find some where and i was like NO i want my baby i just feel down with my back and everything then he was like well to be fair you got yourself into the situation so u kinda have to deal with it OH went crazy at him and went dwn stairs and put in an official complaint.

 

[Loula]

oh another insensitive comment to add to the list that long term and problm=ematic TTCers get thrown at them - how so very patronising!!

 

[Blob]

Thats so mean

 

[pixielou]

Dnt get me started on doctors grrrrr i went at 24 weeks cos i felt a bit down with an achy back etc and he was like well termination is'nt an option here but we could find some where and i was like NO i want my baby i just feel down with my back and everything then he was like well to be fair you got yourself into the situation so u kinda have to deal with it OH went crazy at him and went dwn stairs and put in an official complaint.

Yep, my OH was peed off too. The doc was trying to talk to him and OH was just ignoring him!

 

[Chocoholic]

It's awful to hear it from a doctor. But she might've been sincerely trying to help, thinking that it might get your mind off of TTC (since everyone tells us to "relax"...).

Regardless of her motivations, I'm sorry that she said that

 

[akcher]

If they don't know what we're going through, they shouldn't give us "advise"

for you to have to go throught that

 

[krissi]

When I had just come around from the anasthetic after my laprascopy the consultant told me that i have PCOS and may have trouble conceiving he then told me the solution to the problem was a "smile". What an arse.

 

[pixielou]

Dnt get me started on doctors grrrrr i went at 24 weeks cos i felt a bit down with an achy back etc and he was like well termination is'nt an option here but we could find some where and i was like NO i want my baby i just feel down with my back and everything then he was like well to be fair you got yourself into the situation so u kinda have to deal with it OH went crazy at him and went dwn stairs and put in an official complaint.

I can't believe what he said to you, I'm amazed!! I bet your OH went crazy thats so bad. I mean I know that they see alot of people etc and may be tired stressed etc but stil!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[pixielou]

When I had just come around from the anasthetic after my laprascopy the consultant told me that i have PCOS and may have trouble conceiving he then told me the solution to the problem was a "smile". What an arse.

Oh my gosh Krissi, what an arse! How can he say that, again I'm amazed, I though that doctors were supposed to be caring etc?????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!