Grandmother calling herself Mama

[shamrockerjo]

That sounds mental to me. I'd be so angry if my mum would do that but then she knows her boundaries and she's always really good and supportive without interfering. My MIL on the other hand.. She doesn't go as far as calling herself mama (if she did I'd probably never let her see Maya again) however she calls her "my baby" which I think is totally inappropriate and also introduces me to people as "just the mother" which is totally rude and condescending. I often want to remind her that I'm the person who lets her see her grandchild and that if she doesn't learn her boundaries she won't be seeing her anymore.

 

[sjminimac]

just the mother? Oh my word...

 

[melorablack]

Some peoples mothers and MIls are absolutely mental, fgs it's not like they've not had their own kids is it?

 

[AP]

Annoyed is not even the word for me. I wouldnt even let her make the same 'mistake' twice believe me. Its a huge no no - you dont go having kids for MILs.

Im gonna shut up now before i envisage my cow of a MIL doing that (she probably dreams about it )

 

[KamKol]

I don't want to sound mean or anything, but your mum sounds as though she is broody on a different level!

 

[SAmummy]

Maybe the next time she tells LO to call her mama you should correct her and say Nana. Then if she reacts you can ask her what she would want your LO to call her since mama is reserved for you. My friend's son calls his grandma ma-maaaah. It sounds a bit different from mama and he calls his grandpa pa-paaah. He calls his father daddy and his mom mommy. I always asked my mom what she would want her grandkids to call her. My mom hates to be called grandma as that for her sounds way too old. So she chose Oma (german grandmother). My dad is grumpa.

Thats something along the lines of what i was going to say. It gets the message across in a good way and sets a clear boundry. Perhaps when some women get older they really miss having babies and they are trying to "relive" their memories through their grandkids ? I hope I don't get like that

 

[Shellyvet2007]

My first child called my OH's mother mama because this is what everybody in the family
called her as a sign of respect. Possibly a difference in cultures as he is Indian. Anyway, it really did bother me though I let it go as my husband explained to me it was nothing more then my son calling her what everybody calls her -- it is technically her name. I don't even know what her real name is. Everybody just calls her mama.

After a while it didn't bother me. Little one knows that I am his mother and that she is grandmother.

 

[JuneBabyBump]

My aunt insists that her grandchild calls her mami (another form of mama in german). I think it's rude!

On another note, these posts about annoying moms and MIL just make me wonder how we are all going to be with our children and DIL lol

 

[Vickie]

You're not overreacting at all!

 

[loopy_lou]

In our family we had a discussion about who was nana and who was grandmar and what great grandmother was going to be called i found it a great way to sort out things.

Why not try that approach say to her does she want to be grandma or nana?

 

[GingerNut]

In our family we had a discussion about who was nana and who was grandmar and what great grandmother was going to be called i found it a great way to sort out things.

Why not try that approach say to her does she want to be grandma or nana?

We did! She opted fof Nana, which might be making the 'accidents' more likely - they sound so similar.

 

[Claire788]

hmm my MiL does exactly the same, calls herself mama.... I really want her to stop, but I dont know what to say! pls let us know what you end up saying, could use some tips!

 

[aob1013]

Wow she sounds really overbearing and WAY too in your face. You need to have a very firm word with her and tell her to back te hell off and stop calling herself Mama, she is NOT you DD's Mama at all!

 

[SassyLou]

I have a very overpowering interfering MIL it's so distressing isn't it? There have been times when I could have throttled her. I always think my dad's advice was the best (bless him he never interfered when he was alive), he used to say "You should be a two day lame donkey ride away from parents/in laws!!!" I think he'd got a point don't you?
We did end up moving, not quite a two day lame donkey ride away, but a good hour by car, it makes them ask before coming, its a long way to come if we're not in. It's a bit extreme though isn't it!!! Must admit we didn't move because of them but it's been a fantastic side-effect!

I think you've got to try and stand up for yourself, your Rosie's mum not her, and I would hope you're important to her because you're her daughter not the woman who made her a grandmother.

Lots of love xxxxx