grandparents access question

[dawnmichelle]

hiya all, i wont go in to detail because it would be too long , in a situation where fob is not on the bc but has access, do i have to let his mum and family have separate access?? because iam not keen on this please help its all getting too much, hes treating me like dirt because i wont do what he wants hes a bully xxx

 

[kirst1805]

As far as I know you don't HAVE to let them have access at all.. I could be wrong... Don't let FOB throw his weight around..

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[xKARENxBABYx]

grandparents have no rights xx

 

[xSophieBx]

Grand parents have got rights now.. It came in a few months back. However I wouldnt worry as far as I'm away they can't get extra access, it would just be access whilst FOB has the child x

 

[TiredNurse27]

^wss, it'd have to come out of his time not yours

 

[Snowball]

They do have rights, but I think it has to be proven that they have tried to maintain a relationship with them during the period of absence and were denied... I'm sure I read that.

My ex DH left about 7 months ago and his mother has made no attempt to see our children. I have not stopped access, my only stipulation was that she see them in their own environment first before whisking them off to her house (where they haven't been for years and I'm not sure if my youngest has ever been there!). That sort of thing, especially without me present, can worry kids, hence why I wanted her to rebuild a relationship with them first. She doesn't want to know, so as a result she has not maintained contact.

Ex DH did threaten that she would take court action a while back but she can't... because I haven't said she can't see them

 

[MissRhead]

My LO never sees FOBs family unless he takes him when hes in the uk. They never bother or contact me so i dont either, their loss. As far as im aware you dont have to? xx

 

[SophiasMummy]

My LO has never met her dads parents as far as im concerned if they want to meet her then they can but they have to come to us because im not traveling for over an hour on a train to see her grandparents that cant be bothered

 

[dawnmichelle]

fob is not happy because i told him his mum will have to see lo on fobs time because she wanted to take lo to see her sisters i told him you take lo when you have him to see your family, hes is well annoyed and hardly speaks to me anymore, he is also annoyed because i wont let him in the house any more, i have lo ready at the door and he has to be on time, i dread everytime he comes to get lo i start shaking i hate the way he is xx

 

[Snowball]

fob is not happy because i told him his mum will have to see lo on fobs time because she wanted to take lo to see her sisters i told him you take lo when you have him to see your family, hes is well annoyed and hardly speaks to me anymore, he is also annoyed because i wont let him in the house any more, i have lo ready at the door and he has to be on time, i dread everytime he comes to get lo i start shaking i hate the way he is xx

You should be proud of yourself that you stick him to that though hun. I've been way too weak with my ex DH at the best of times. I say stick him to his rules, if he don't like it that's his problem