CanadianMaple
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I'm asking in here because I know this will be where I get the most answers from people who have BTDT.
My ex and I had a baby in 2008. He was not around a lot and eventually moved out when our son was 7 months old. He was terrible at visiting regularly and paying support.
Eventually, he went out west and wouldn't tell me where he was. He had to lose his drivers licence in order to start paying support. He has talked to our now 4 year old once, for 20 seconds, in October.
He did see him for a few hours at a time when he was home last summer.
His parents were pretty nasty to me once we had the baby and they couldn't boss me around about how long I breastfed, and all parenting decisions.
Anyway, my lawyer when doing the custody stuff in 2010 told me that grandparents do not have rights here. I tried to have them over to visit and they were not very nice. He said to let him allow them to forge the relationship during his visits, it wasn't my responsibility.
Since he's now a deadbeat and never sees his son, his mom has called me and demanded that they see the child regularly, and either weekly, biweekly or monthly. She pretty much said it was all my fault and I needed to think carefully about it and then call her back.
I am going to call my lawyer tomorrow and will not respond to her unless I have to. It's his responsibility, not mine, I already do 100% of the parenting.
Just wondering if anyone else has been in a situation like this? Can the grandparents push for access? It's not like they have any kind of bond with him, they have only seen him probably about 10 times, and most of those times were over a year ago.
We really wanted to proceed with stepparent adoption, but I doubt he will go for that. He just wants the title of being "dad" without ever having to parent.
My ex and I had a baby in 2008. He was not around a lot and eventually moved out when our son was 7 months old. He was terrible at visiting regularly and paying support.
Eventually, he went out west and wouldn't tell me where he was. He had to lose his drivers licence in order to start paying support. He has talked to our now 4 year old once, for 20 seconds, in October.
He did see him for a few hours at a time when he was home last summer.
His parents were pretty nasty to me once we had the baby and they couldn't boss me around about how long I breastfed, and all parenting decisions.
Anyway, my lawyer when doing the custody stuff in 2010 told me that grandparents do not have rights here. I tried to have them over to visit and they were not very nice. He said to let him allow them to forge the relationship during his visits, it wasn't my responsibility.
Since he's now a deadbeat and never sees his son, his mom has called me and demanded that they see the child regularly, and either weekly, biweekly or monthly. She pretty much said it was all my fault and I needed to think carefully about it and then call her back.
I am going to call my lawyer tomorrow and will not respond to her unless I have to. It's his responsibility, not mine, I already do 100% of the parenting.
Just wondering if anyone else has been in a situation like this? Can the grandparents push for access? It's not like they have any kind of bond with him, they have only seen him probably about 10 times, and most of those times were over a year ago.
We really wanted to proceed with stepparent adoption, but I doubt he will go for that. He just wants the title of being "dad" without ever having to parent.
