Grandparents!

[MissMamma]

Okay so i haven't lived at home for a good while now but i am still v. close to my mum and she's going down to visit my grandparents this week. I really dont want to go. Mainly because i've been away from OH a lot recently and i just want some time with him to chill out a bit! But also because i'm absoluteyl skint so can't really afford to take more time off work and also because they are a lot more stuck up than my immediate family and they don't approve of the pregnancy [they've not been mean or horrible or anything they're just disappointed!] and i never feel relaxed when i'm there. i feel like i have to pretend to be someone else while i'm there.

Anyways my mum is making me feel soo guilty for not going down and my dad just had a major go at me! Am i being unreasonable? I need some outside opinions because i know i can be very stubborn and struggle to see other peoples points of view at times

 

[Tanara]

I dont think your being unreasonable, work is very important they cant expect you to lose your job to visit them imo

 

[xoxsarahxox]

your not being unreasonable. u shud have not have to go out of your own way to make yourself feel uncomfortable.... my dad dont approove of my pregnancy and i felt like i didnt belong in my own parents home everytme i visited and felt the needtowear baggy tops so my bump cudnt be seen. now i have realised that i shudnt be made to feel uncomfortable especially by my own family so i have made the decision to not visit them anymore. and at the edn of the day if u r not in the fincaial position to go taking time off work then dont go, your parents shud be more understanding x

 

[MissMamma]

I dont think i'll lose my job...my boss is lovely but i mean i literally cant afford not to work! I have no money and bills to pay!
I'm just worried i'm acting a bit like a brat. My grandparents always spoil me with gifts and money etc on my birthday and xmas and my dad says its ungrateful of my not go see them once in a while.

 

[xprincessx]

you're not being unreasonable at all...you need the money from your job and they should respect that. besides if they make you feel uncomfortable i wouldnt bother visiting even if i didnt have a job i had to do...what would be the point in being made to feel uncomfortable for no reason? x

 

[Jadelm]

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all hun

Just how things go for me.. I HATE going to my granparents.. they are horrible just in general. They can be so nasty to my mum and they have done some unforgivable things.. but my mum loves them and she likes me to go with her because they are still her parents and so I go anyway and just bite my tongue and act sweetly to keep everyone happy. At the end of the day it doesn't take up too much of my time and it's not THAT much of an effort so I don't mind doing it for my mum
But that's just me, not saying that's right for you cos our situations are still way different xxx

 

[MissMamma]

Jade thats exactly how i feel every time i go down. I do it for my mum and i feel like i should this time too but i just can't bring myself to! I'm a horrible daughter. Now all i can think is "what if my daughter does this to me? How would i feel!"