Got it ta
I'd gladly pay the difference too - on the surface it does appear to be a cost cutting excercise and a stats lowering one too.
Isnt it just so horrible to be so in limbo and out of control with what is going to happen. I would love to be one of these tree hugging ladies who pop babies out in half an hour with not even so much as a twinge let alone a drop of 'ceuticals - but I'm not and not likely to be!
Phinners, you're so funny! I wish too that I was a braver person but its best to be honest isn't it. And its not as if I haven't had not only a traumatic pregnancy but a history of other things that I truly believe I would not be doing my unborn child any favours if I let myself go through a potentially traumatic birth with dangerous consequences. Not that a CS comes problem free. I know that but I believe it to be the safer option in my case.
We just have to be strong when putting our cases across, demand second opinions and stick to our guns. I have never had to use the NHS for anything before, as I've always been lucky enough to have private at work but now I do need them and its clearly going to be an uphill struggle.
Wishing us all a happy safe outcome xxx
I agree with you 100%!
I feel kinda sad in a way that I might never know what it is to have a natural birth - but really I would rather have a healthy alive baby, and it that means having him surgically then that's what I want.
I wish my OH could make it that day, he's been to everything but he has to work in Kent that day and has fobbed them off on the last 2 meetings and can't with this one. But he's going to push for the 12.20 train back so he can be there for the 3.30pm appt.
He's not exaclty Rambo but he would give me extra confidence to be more assertive and firm if I need to be. Not that I'm a shrinking violet anyway.
Lol he would sit there quiet and not say a word, but he'd listen and remember every word - only twice have I seen him go into full assertive mode and it's a rare and beautiful thing to see. haha TMI but it's makes me feel quite *ya know, down there
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OT but one of his assertive moments was when we'd stayed at a newly opened hotel, I was 5 months gone and the shower water was only piss warm.
He got that manager out and let the manager spout bullshit to him for ten minutes before he put him quite straight on building and water regulations and Legionnaires risk if the water is not at a constant 55 degrees C within 60seconds (or something). He rattled on for a good few minutes.
Then the manager says it must be just our room - oh no my OH werent having that, he argued hotel rooms are not run off individual water suppliers, they are run off..*something something* that run the whole building and that he designs the systems and therefore my have a slight incling as to how they work. And that clearly the 'QP' hasnt been done because they wouldnt have been allowed to open and he needs to go back to the contractiors asap.
Then I pipes up 'he's a chartered engineer mate, don't go there boyfriend'.
Then I hid behind the wall partition becuase I was utterly pissing myswelf laughing. MY OH was superb, he was polite but firm.
I was like 'fucking hell Matthew where did that come from???? OMG that was so horny'.
I never seen anything like it, he's so bloody shy and quiet normally.
Anyway yeah sorry to go OT then..
