Grrr.. x (rant)

[Gemstar785]

Ok well here goes...

My OH got a new car about 2 weeks ago, since then there has been nothing but problems with the bloody thing! So anyway, he keeps staying out for hours on end and blaming it on 'fixing the car' when I know for a fact he is just fuckin about with his mates for ages, which is really annoying me. I know that the car does need to be fixed but there is no way it could possibly have taken so long and the only real work has been done by the garage today.

Then he comes home and says he has no time with his mates when in reality I have no time with him as he only seems to come back here to sleep. For the past couple of weeks even before the car he has been using it as an excuse saying he needs to get his 'insurance changed' which (after us both doing all the work online) took him a further two whole days (not coming home until about 9) to sort out... HOW DOES THAT ADD UP?!?

I just feel so alone at the moment. He recently got a new job and it just so happens that they ask him to work his first and ONLY full day so far on the day of my early scan so I had to go alone which was really sad seeing as I wanted to share such a special moment with him. I was the ONLY person their alone and also the only teenager and it felt as if everyone was looking down at me. I'm starting to think he really doesn't understand me at all and if i have the tiniest little moan about feeling sick or being tired he goes off on one.

I helped him cook a pizza yesterday and when it was done I asked for one slice, (baring in mind this is my house and so far he has paid £20 towards keep and has been living here like a month and a half) and he went ape sh*t at me. Telling me he was going to rip up my scan photo and throw it away, then five minutes later he wants to cuddle up and if i don't then I will get another sh*t load of abuse! I just don't know what to do with him, I really want this to work but he is being so horrible and then makes out like it's me in the wrong... Is it me in the wrong?

I know I can be a nag but it doesn't quite merit this to me....

 

[youngmum2b]

This aint right hun.
I would say sit down n talk to him about it, but some how i dont think that will solve anything.
Lots of

 

[Gemstar785]

Thanks hun. I'm going to try to tonight when he gets back as he is late again because of the car . But I don't know how I can do it because when ever I try to talk to him about things like this he assumes I'm breaking up with him or 'Doesn't know what to say' and walks off saying he's going to his mums. He has only recently started being like this since we moved in together. I just wish I could have the old him back. x

 

[Youngling]

Sorry he is being such a dick. Maybe he is being abit off cuz he still needs to get used to u being pregnant.
If he keeps on like that I think u should have a good think about whether u should be with him or not. U deserve to be treated better
xx

 

[Gemstar785]

Thank you x. I doubt it has settled in yet and I'm hoping it's maybe just because he is nervous... but still not an excuse. xxx

 

[mayb_baby]

boys take AGES to take the idea in xxx

 

[ablacketer]

it sounds to me, hun, like he is pulling the tantrums to get you to let him have his way. If he has you afraid he will think youre breaking up with him, or afraid he will go off in a tizzy then he is winning. You will never get him to act right if you dont confront him. call him out on his tantrums and tell him to grow the hell up.

 

[newmommy23]

agree with these ladies! it's no excuse to be nervous about pregnancy he's only thinking of himself. and threatening to tear up your scan picture?!? He's lucky you aren't me I would have clobbered him. Hope he comes around!