Gutted...

[Luckystar]

I had an emcs with my dd and had to have a general. The fact that 'I missed her birth' really left its mark on me. I am due to have another cs on the 2nd Jan and have today found out that I have to have a general again. I am so upset and I burst into tears when they told me. I know it's the right thing - I have a neurological condition - but the fact that I am 'missing the birth' again is just so upsetting.

My mw has spoken to the labour unit and they will do their utmost to film the birth for me, so fingers crossed they are not too busy/don't forget etc...

A VBAC is not an option unfortunately

Thanks for 'listening'.

 

[weebun]

aww hun sending you a huge hug x I am due planned c-section on wednesday this week, will be my 3rd, my last one I got a bladder tear and was an awful experience and not in the same way but like you in a way left a scar on me, I suppose how i describe it is, just now what I imagined it like what I thought my births would be like. no one prepares us for the unexpected really. I am pertrified and not happy with having another c-section planned, as I have been told it is high risk again due to scar tissue emergency or not, yet my consultant is admamant it is best as she can take her time . I am not filled with confidence hence! I want to be left alone, I nearly rang up and cancelled today, i am willing labour before wednesday! allsorts...

So not the same as you, by far very different but on a level I do feel for you deeply, cause like you it's like it's all taken out of my hands, no options, that's how it is... I am truly not looking forward to to, I missed out on so much when my daughter was born last year and I was awake, there was no joyous moment, no time holding baby till about 4 hours after she was born.. my partner and her were whisked away while they sorted me out and no one told me anything and it was blerted out to me so matter of fact that I had a bladder tear, I was a mess.

I am ok now x fully recovered but scared of something going wrong again

x

hugs to you and I wish you well x keep in touch x d

 

[Luckystar]

Awww Weebun, I feel for you. It sounds like you had an awful time. You read/hear about birth being such a magical and emotional time. It was certainly emotional for us both, but unfortunately for all the wrong reasons

I'm trying to focus on the 'positives' i.e it's the best thing for baby and myself etc etc. I know it's the sensible option but it's not what I want...

I'm also sending you a and I hope Wed brings a positive experience as you bring your precious bundle into the world.

Take care x

 

[weebun]

yes I'm trying to keep my positive head on and just get baby into the world. I think having a 16 month old and a 9 year old at home also who want my attention constantly is a huge factor. x

Will see what tomorrrow brings x I am goin to ring the hosp today and speak to someone, I think I just need to speak to someone medical and get it all off my chest. see what they say x

 

[mommytobe11]

I was under general because the spinal and epidural wouldn't work. My doctor told me I will have to be put under for all future children because they don't work with the anatomy of my spine.
I struggled a lot with the fact that me nor my husband were present for our sons birth. But I just kind of accepted this is how it will be. a c section was the last thing I ever wanted so the fact that I even had to have one was devastating enough.

Just continue to think about the positives and know you're not alone