had bad 1st pregnancy need advice/encouragement

[ms sunshine]

well just like the title says my first pregnancy was not easy. I had cervical bleeding right the way through probably every 2 weeks i had to have so many emergency scans, and in general the 9 months was pretty hellish. although it was never life threatening or miscarrage every time it happened it felt like something bad was going to happen. then the birth was supposed to be a water birth but was in loads of pain so had epidural. as it turned out he was trying to get out sideways. he was going to be a c sec but they were able to get him out using forceps. While i was in labour i kept having to be put on my side as he stopped breathing. i really really want another kid. There are no other kids in my family and i dont want him to have no family members of a similar age. i would love to have another baby but i am terrified if something happened to me then my baby doent have a mum or im scared of another stressful pregnancy. most of it is probably me just imagining the worst, but i dont think i would be happy not having another one. Im 36 so will plan to start trying next cycle. has anyone had a bad pregnancy and the next been okay, am i being stupid? i am also waiting for the doc to ring me as she has requested my hospial records to make sure that there wasnt a reason as to why it wasnt a straight forward pregnancy , im sure it was just bad luck but she is going to tell me to put my mind at rest.

 

[Tinkerbelle35]

Sorry I can't offer any personal experience as I'm only ttc for #1, but I have been reading rather obsessively about getting pregnant and pregnancy, and the only consistent message I seem to be able to pick up is that everyone is different and every pregnancy, even in the same woman, is different! I hope the doc gives you the go ahead

 

[MUMOF5]

I'm sorry that you have negative feelings from your previous delivery. Having a baby really is like going into the unknown, and every pregnancy and delivery is different. What I will say is that rarely are second deliveries as traumatic as the first, the second baby will 'take a road already travelled' if you pardon my explanation. As in its usually much easier for your baby to travel down the birth canal. Labours are in general quicker with second babies and as I said, usually less far less traumatic during the actual delivery. I hope you can put your mind at rest and have another little bundle of joy xx