Had enough!!

[Moulder86]

That's it I've had enough he's pissed me off for the last time, all I try and do it make things easy for him I don't kick up a stink if he doesn't come round for a week or about the fact he owes me £350 and that's without paying anything for bubs. I didn't even kick up a fuss when he said he wouldn't be at the birth!

I can't even walk down the road near his house or go to the pub where his new gf works without getting a text the next day asking me to call and getting him moaning says the spies were out or some shit like that. His gf drove past whilst I was walking down the road and she went on at him about him having visitors when I didn't even go round there!

His new gf is 40, he's 35 I'm only 22 but neither of them are acting like adults about this situation. The only thing I've asked of him was to come with me to get his name on the birth cert and he let me down but he keeps saying how he's got everyone on his back about something and he's had enough. Well tell you what I've had a fuckin nough!!!!!

Sorry I'm just fed up with trying to be the good guy and make things easy for him to see his son or give him no reason to moan at me or keep his distance and it's just not working because I'm getting upset about everything. All I want is for him to be a dad to his son. I'm not asking for maintenance or for the money I lent him just a lil understanding. Sorry I'm rambling needed to get it off my chest.

xx

 

[moomin_troll]

Well ur a better person then i'd be in this situation because id take him for all the money i could which i think u should do hes old enough to realise he has a responsablity to u and ur baby.

And as for his new gf well she sounds like a sad little cow doesnt she.

If he isnt willing to stand up then u sound better off without him in your babies life

 

[Moulder86]

That's what my parents say but I just can't help feeling he needs to have his dad in his life. But then dad says that I'll find someone worth to take on the roll of being his dad in time.

He doesn't officially work and isn't on the doll so I can't get anything from him if I went to the CSA and I stupidly couldn't bring myself to do it though. I dunno what's wrong with me I should hate him and like to say take him for everything but I can't bring myself to do it.

xx

 

[moomin_troll]

like i said better person than i am lol but i grew up without my dad (total waste of space) and i grew up never wanting to see him and still dont because i had my mum and nan n they are all i needed. If he turns out to be a rubbish dad which he already seems to be proving then he doesnt deserve ur kindness. I think u should just say to him u best get a job because im taking u to the cleaners, babies are expensive and he needs to pay his fair share

 

[brownhairedmom]

Sometimes kids don't need two parents just because its "right". Sometimes kids are better off having one parent who loves them more than life itself, than to have two who are bickering all the time.

I think you really need to consider what is right for your baby. Having a happy, relaxed mother by herself, or having a stressed out and upset mother who has to argue 24/7 with the father?

 

[khartnett]

Hun i.d still speak to CSA
its money for your son it
takes two to make a baby
x

 

[Moulder86]

Yeah except he's response is he gave me the choice and I'm the one who decided to keep him despite what he wanted or suggested.

x

 

[brownhairedmom]

Yeah except he's response is he gave me the choice and I'm the one who decided to keep him despite what he wanted or suggested.

x

Smack him

 

[Moulder86]

Smack him

It has crossed my mind!!

 

[xXx Vamp xXx]

I'm a hormonal rampage tonight.. I'll smack him...

 

[moomin_troll]

Id smake him too! if he doesnt want to have babies then tell him he needs to put something on the end of it what a w*nker!

 

[Elli21]

Like the other girls have said..your a much nicer person than me...id play him at his own game..theres not much more u can do to try to help him bond with your son!!

Its his choice and if his choice is to ignore your son, then its his loss!!

And like someone else said, it doesnt matter whether or not he wanted your son, he help make him!! And his arguement wont stand up against the CSA hun..

Hope u can manage to sort it out hun,, if not, dont stress yourself out over it...hes obviously not worth it xx

 

[maky72]

i have an ex who is a total waste of space, i even had his new gf (now wife) come and attack me on my doorstep in front of my children. i use to get upset when he ignored the kids or didn't have them regulary however now i just wish he would move miles away. as i know we r better off without him.
i had enough and went 2 csa so he had 2 pay for the children he fathered.
i'm now about 2 become a student midwife which i wouldn't have done if i was still with him.
good luck, b strong xx

 

[Suzanne]

I hear where your coming from hun, it took me 3 years to take my ex hubby to the CSA, just couldnt bring myself to do it, I didnt want to add to his burdens!

So I know how you feel, but if you dont want money off him that is your choice hun! I am the same, I still dont get money from my ex but I dont care about the money I just care whether he sees the children or not and he doesnt do that either! i use to get sooo angry, cry everyday not for me for them, but ya know what..... they dont need him cos they got me and your son doesnt need him either cos he has you!

Its hard very very hard but try and let it go! I know its easy for me to say it but its the best thing you can do cos your boy needs a happy mum not a stressed one cos he WILL pick up on it! It took me a longtime to let it go but I did it and now if I get any money from my ex hubby then fine if he calls asking to see the kids then thats great but if not I dont sweat it, not anymore... life is too short!