Had to tell my mum

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I was so scared but had no choice as, my letter for my scan arrived at her house, (complicated) but during my last preg I had to change my address to hers as the midwifes would not visit my house as it was out of there durisdiction for the hospital i wanted to attend, and obviously at the hospital they not changed it back, so my mum who is 76 and my dad 82 (they were "older" when they accidentally had me lol) my bro and sister are a lot older than me, sorry I digress back to the point, mum rang me to say there is a letter here from the hospital for you, are you ok, I said fine nothing wrong its probably junk will call for it after work ( and promptly hung up) thinking OHHHH NOOOO what am i gonna say, anways by the time i get there mother is sat looking like death warmed up and dad is waiting by the door with the letter in his hand saying we thought it was important and they both just stood there staring at me, so i opened it and tried to change subject from the letter and mum goes just tell me what wrong with you, she had decided I needed my head amputating or something i think LOL so i just said its nothing to worry about I am pregnant, at which point she looked like she might faint, then started to almost cry (not happy tears) and started saying how did that happen i thought you had a coil, so I said i DID i have it removed to have a baby, its not an accident, mark has no children and we decided to try now before i got any older, she then flapped about how I would "cope" etc then my Dad came out with the classic oh well you will have to get the divorce sorted as you will need to get married HA HA HA anyway since then about 5 days ago she has not said a great deal except a few phone calls to say things like i need checks as im OLD lol and did I FORCE mark into it, and other things that would probably shock most people but its just the way my mum is, but she also offered to come to my first appointment with me so its not all bad!!!
 
Give them a chance they will come round, they are from a different generation and from your post I take it you are still married to someone else? Try not to worry too much - all that matters is your health and the your little ones!

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yeah we have been seperated over 3 years, I just refuse to pay for the divorce as it was his fault lol, he keeps saying he will do it but never gets round to it but think I will push for it now, we have 3 children together and this baby is with my new partner who does not have kids
 
my mum was a little shocked too when I told her. So shocked infact that my sister and i had to pour a bottle of wine into her before she would believe she wasn't too old to be a granny again! However 6 weeks later she's showing off scan photos to anyone who will look, it'll be fine! x
 
Everything will work out fine :) At least they know so you don't have to worry about telling them! I still have that to come!!!! ha ha x
 
My mum was quite negative about my pregnancy last year due to the fact she is not very maternal and she feels it is a backwards step for women who can have a career.
And when LO came along she hasn't been happier! She dotes on him loads. I think parents see the negative side of things as they worry about their children (obviously even at our age!)
I only got divorced after 12 years separation and living with my partner for many years. We did it on the 2 year separation rule as the courts don't appreciate you laying blame on one party.
No rush to get divorced unless you are tied financially or on credit scores.
Congrats btw x
 

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