Has anyone made a Will?

[Mummy2Liam]

I sound really ridiculous for saying this as I'm only 20.
But I've been advised by my solicitor to make a Will. I'm 16 weeks pregnant and have a two year old - father is the same to both but is no longer on the scene. Yet he's on the birth certificate of my son.

Therefore, if I die tomorrow...He'd automatically be moved 116miles away to his father who has disowned him and washed his hands. Simply because he's got parental responsibility and on the BC. Even though he has now lived with my Mum and Brother longer than what he ever lived with his father.

By me making a Will this means if I die then my Mum automatically gets him to stay with her and then it's taken to a contested hearing. Then my solicitor would represent me and hold the letter that we received from my ex-partner saying 'He no longer wishes to pursue a relationship with his son' and the Judge or Magistrates would then see what an Oxygen thief he is.

So, with all that...I'm curious as if anyone else has made a Will or looking in to making one.

Touch wood nothing ever happens to me though!

 

[dustbunny]

I haven't BUT I think it is a very good idea and will look into it myself asap!

 

[MummyJade]

I am currently doing a will too...

Due to the fact fob doesn't have much to do with LO and she would be better off with a member of my family...

My solicitor said the same as yours, the judge will do what is best for child, but thats even if the dad wants to try and get their child.... in my case doubtful cos FOB cares only for himself!

Its weird to be making a will at should a young age, but its for kids so you dont mind so much!!


x

 

[jessrabbit]

Not yet, but I am definately going to x

 

[xSophieBx]

Not yet, but I also plan on doing this once christmas is out the way!!

 

[kirst1805]

Its not ridiculous at all, I haven't yet, but am getting it sorted asap. I've got my life insurance sorted out and I know exactly who will be taking Gemma, and how the insurance money is going to be sorted. I just need to get it in writing.

Gem's dad has never even seen her really.. Just a couple of pictures, and I rarely hear from him so he'd have no way of even finding out that I'd gone.

Although I'm not planning on going anywhere just yet, You never know who or what is round the corner, Best to be as prepared as possible even though its horrible thinking about it.

xxx

 

[MummyJade]

I too got life insurance and if Maizie is under age, then my mum is carer of money till Maizie is old enough...
x

 

[Happy]

Now my solicitor told me I can put in my will who I 'wish' Phoebe to live with however if ex husband decideds he wants her then it would go to court, she said its very unlikely that the father would not get her because he has joint parental responsibility. It is mearly a wish in a will and is not set in stone.

 

[xKARENxBABYx]

i have a will as my lawyer advised me too. but i can't say who LO has to stay with as FOB has 50% rights but its still worth looking into as if you have life insurance ect FOB can't touch it xxx

 

[teal]

I've not made one but I have seriously considered it. FOB isn't on the birth certificate and has made it clear or numerous occasions that he doesn't want to know.

Since he's not on the birth certificate and doesn't have any contact with me/us at all then I imagine my mum would get custody of my son if anything happened *touch wood*

I should really look into this more! xx

 

[QuintinsMommy]

Not yet but I should

 

[emlubu]

How do I go about making a will??

 

[littlekitten8]

I havn't made mine yet but will be doing it after christmas. Mummy2Liam - you know my situation so we have had lots of chats about these type of things lol. I will be making a will to say James will go to my parents, and failing that my sister, and the life insurance goes into an account which only my mum can touch to use for James's upbringing. And whatever is left over will be given to James when he is 21.

To make a will you need to speak to a solicitor. My solicitor gave me the card of a colleague of hers who does wills at your home for just over £100.

 

[1sttimemom08]

I haven't yet, but I (also just barely 22) will be writing one end of this month. Although he isn't on her birth certificate at all, I don't want any chance of him gaining any sort of custody without a battle, as he hasn't even met her, and I feel like we have finally gotten "rid" of him (long story, but he was threatening my family's well being, but not in a "threatening enough sense for a protection order".. total BS.. But we have moved, changed phone numbers, and all on advice of a lawyer...).
I was told by a lawyer to write one as well (Mainly because, although accidents can happen, we all sort of fear that he is capable of anything...), and almost feel overwhelmed with the idea. I'll be leaving my little girl to my younger sister (also a mother to one and in a more stable condition than my parents), along with my life insurance in an account to be used half for raising her, and half for college (although my sister has already said she wants to keep the whole thing for my daughter's college instead, and not to worry about raising expenses).

Also knock on wood that nothing happens.

 

[Dream.dream]

i had one made as extra insurance that should anything happen to me my sons dad would never get custody of him. its a good idea because it speaks for what your wishes are and noone can argue about it

 

[Crumbsx]

I really should make one. I'm only 18, but I'd rather have one so I know my daughter will be looked after by the right people (my family - who actually know her and have bonded with her) if anything were to happen to me.

I'll have to speak to a solicitor soon enough, once I save up £100! Definatley worth the money though