has your childs father been cooperative with paying child maintenance?

[Dezireey]

I just think that they should offer men free vasectomies or encourage vasectomies on the NHS, like a walk in thing! Also, they should go to court or something if they father more than e.g two kids and walk away from them or refuse to pay maintenance and avoid it. In a nutshell, there is not enough done IMHO to prevent these men just walking away because they just 'want to'.

I was reading on another forum about a heartbreaking story of a woman who had not wanted kids at all and her husband of four years kept pressurising her and threatening to leave her if they didn't start a family. She fell pregnant with twins, it freaked him out and he left her at 8 months pregnant and just disappeared, never to be seen again. Just a postcard to his sister saying he was having a great time with his new life in France with his new girlfriend. Didn't ask about his kids or nothing. When his sister asked him why he left his wife pregnant when he was the one who wanted kids, he said he 'changed his mind and realised that was not the path in life he wanted to take' Go figure! how crazy is that?

 

[babycrazy1706]

what the hell !!!! crazy!!! poor woman!

 

[xxsteffyxx]

Poor women...

But at the end of the day, don't look on the negative. I know I have a wonderful gorgeous boy who is my apsolute world and I wouldn't change him (I'd change his father in a heartbeat). We're left with these gorgeous babies that we can bring up on OUR own, the way WE want to and without anyone TELLING us how to raise them.

 

[Dezireey]

Amen to that! Wouldn't have it any other way now with my gorgeous munchkin

 

[belle254]

My OH earns about 480 a month and CSA recommended (when I rang them) that he pay 40 a month for his daughter. Once his son arrives in July, it will still be 40 a month, as apparently that's all they can take from his low wages.
Weve been separated a month now and I swear if it wasnt for him back living with mummy again, who gave me the £40 out of her pocket and said she'd take it off him (yeah right), I doubt I'd be seeing any of it. anyone reckon I should ask for a bit more than 40 a month when his newborn son arrives as well in July? He currently doesn't have to pay any rent or food money at his mums. (surprise surprise). xx

 

[blamesydney]

My OH earns about 480 a month and CSA recommended (when I rang them) that he pay 40 a month for his daughter. Once his son arrives in July, it will still be 40 a month, as apparently that's all they can take from his low wages.
Weve been separated a month now and I swear if it wasnt for him back living with mummy again, who gave me the £40 out of her pocket and said she'd take it off him (yeah right), I doubt I'd be seeing any of it. anyone reckon I should ask for a bit more than 40 a month when his newborn son arrives as well in July? He currently doesn't have to pay any rent or food money at his mums. (surprise surprise). xx

I'm in america, and I'm entitled to $250 with my FOB making minimum wage, and he makes more then that. I only take $100 a month from him, because he has her three days a week, but $100 a month is gone within a week of formula and diapers. I would put my foot down, especially with TWO kids! I can't believe they would only get you 40. That's ridiculous.

 

[babycrazy1706]

belle254.....if he's not paying any living costs at his mummys house then he should definitely pay more!!!!! i think you should get at least £120 a month for 2 children. not your problem if he earns a low wage, you still have 2 children to feed, clothe and to put a roof over their heads. he will still have £90 a week to himself which is reasonable seeing as he is living for free off his mum anyway!!! stand your ground!!! good luck! let us know. xx