Hate when people COMPLAIN about being pregnant or having small children

[KahluaCupcake]

So people who bitch and complain to and at and about their small kids are a story for another day.
But people who are unhappy about being pregnant or having a baby......honestly, STFU and give that baby to a home where he or she will be wanted.

This was a MILD example but today I got out of my car at Target and the car right next to me had a woman in the front seat with the windows down, and the distinct cry of a newborn came from inside. I couldn't help but turn towards the sound and said, "oh, that's a real little one!"
And this woman smirked and pointed at her pregnant stomach and said in a drone, "yeah, and I'm gonna have to DEAL with my own soon too!" I said, "congrats," and walked away, feeling like I was going to either scream or cry.

Don't people realize how basically the stars have to align and the sun has to shine just right and the clock has to be in just the right position and Venus in the house of cards (lol) just to conceive?? They don't seem to realize how LUCKY they are just to have the ability to conceive, to carry healthy, to carry to term, and birth a healthy baby.
And then fast forward a couple years to when they're screaming at them, "don't touch anything! Sit down! Shut up! Why are you so bad/annoying/irritating?"

sigh.

 

[ao30]

I cringe every time I hear a mother yell at her child or jerk her child back angrily.

I guess I am thankful that I'm struggling with infertility... I think I appreciate motherhood and children a lot more now than I ever did before.

 

[KahluaCupcake]

Agreed. I think I'll end up being a better parent for it. Because it has become something we've been dreaming about for years and working so hard at, we won't allow ourselves to be anything but great parents, and appreciate our kids for everything they are.

 

[Tina Bee]

I see that all the time. People just dont know when they have it good. I'd give anything to have a screaming newborn.

Oh well our time will come.

 

[Ginger_Bee]

I am SO happy that someone else feels this way as well! Phew! I thought I was being a bit turd-ish. Glad to know that it's a normal feeling! I was feeling that way towards my little sister who got pregnant on 'accident'. Sexually active with her current BF for 2 months, and BAM!. . . she would complain CONSTANTLY . . . sigh. I always just wanted to scream and bawl my eyes out simultaneously. Meh.

 

[jess123]

haha, turd-ish.

My own cousin is a great example of this. She's 19 and got pregnant. It's her now husband's third child. He's also 19. Got started when he was 15, gave up custody of that baby and then the second one he pays child support for but never sees.

I love how she tells me I just don't understand how hard having a baby is.

I think I could deal.

Especially when I want to do things like spell correctly and she tells me I'm "wierd".

 

[Pinky12]

I agree, a girl who I know through a friend works at mcdonalds and has 14 weeks left had to get sent home from her shift the other day because of how useless she was being. When she got pulled up on a problem she started complaining saying that she couldn't do it and she was pregnant remember ( not like they can forget as she has already ballooned up to look like she is full term) and it was the babies fault she was not doing her job and she cant help it if she is pregnant.

My friend responded with, yes it is, if you didnt want one then either put something on it or you should of got rid of it! She kicked off and said no one understands what stress this baby is giving her (bearing in mind my friend has had 2 kids of her own and work as long as she possibly could to get the cash)

She has just got rid of her 2 cats as she cant look after them properly and her oh wont as they arent his responsibility. Needless to say they have only been together 8ish months!

grrrr!!

 

[sarah1726]

double post!

 

[sarah1726]

So people who bitch and complain to and at and about their small kids are a story for another day.
But people who are unhappy about being pregnant or having a baby......honestly, STFU and give that baby to a home where he or she will be wanted. Or even get an abortion. Just do not complain about it.

This was a MILD example but today I got out of my car at Target and the car right next to me had a woman in the front seat with the windows down, and the distinct cry of a newborn came from inside. I couldn't help but turn towards the sound and said, "oh, that's a real little one!"
And this woman smirked and pointed at her pregnant stomach and said in a drone, "yeah, and I'm gonna have to DEAL with my own soon too!" I said, "congrats," and walked away, feeling like I was going to either scream or cry.

Don't people realize how basically the stars have to align and the sun has to shine just right and the clock has to be in just the right position and Venus in the house of cards (lol) just to conceive?? They don't seem to realize how LUCKY they are just to have the ability to conceive, to carry healthy, to carry to term, and birth a healthy baby.
And then fast forward a couple years to when they're screaming at them, "don't touch anything! Sit down! Shut up! Why are you so bad/annoying/irritating?"

sigh.

no need to mention abortion sorry, just saying yor not allowed to mention the word abortion on BnB xxx

 

[KahluaCupcake]

Disregard.

 

[happygal]

towards the end of my last pregnancy i was totally sick of it and i moaned about it alot! yeah i was lucky to be pregnant but not being able to leave the house alone or without crutches due to severe spd was horrible. and then developing pre eclampsia was just the icing on the cake, id had enough and was so relieved that the pregnancy was over!

it doesnt mean i wont go through it again but at the time its hard work.

As for moaning about your children and telling them off is all part and parcel of being a parent. i bet theres not many mums on here who can hand on heart honestly say they have not once moaned about their kids for some reason or another.

just because people tell their children off or moan about the lack of sleep or what ever else, it doesnt mean they love or care for their children any less x

 

[sarah1726]

actually my username is sarah 1726 that 17 is my OH's DOB and 26 is my sisters death anniversary. FYI (not that its any of your business) im 20 and will be 21 in december

my age has nothing to do with this i was simply telling you the word abortion is against the rules ok

Oh and i wont have multiple accounts i only need this one because im old enough to be here, otherwise my DOB wouldn be on my profile i dont need to explain myself to you ok, was only saying the word ABORTION isnt allowed!

 

[KahluaCupcake]

Sarah, pardon. I jumped to conclusions. Your signature and writing style, as well as forum name, are similar. But you're right, and I apologize. You've been here quite a while...I'm sorry I jumped the gun. Oops.

 

[buttonnose82]

girls lets leave it there

 

[sarah1726]

i only came on to this thread to let you know the rules about the A word, i wasnt being smart or rude, so please dont be rude to me appology accepted

 

[sequeena]

Oh girls I can't tell you how much this annoyed me too when I was TTC but then, finally (Whee!!) I got pregnant and before I knew it I was joining the moaners club. I feel extremely blessed to be pregnant and would do it over and over again but there are some things about pregnant I don't like. I don't like the worry, the ms, the pains etc. but they're part and parcel and we have to deal with them.

I've had quite a rough pregnancy with this LO but things are looking up now and I feel so much better. Good luck ladies!