Have I done the right thing?

[Moulder86]

Well as some of you know my lil fella's dad hasn't had much to do with him sine he was born. Hasn't seen him properly since November and didn't bother with Christmas. He has a habit of making me seem like the bad one.

Anyway it was his birthday today and I didn't send him card or anything from Max, have I done the wrong thing? Should I be trying to keep the peace and some sort of a relationship going between the two? Just feel if I do it now then when Max is old enough to make a decision for himself and realise what his dad is really like then it's his choice........

 

[Serene123]

Nah, if he saw him regularly I would send one, but he doesn't, so why does he deserve one?!?!

 

[sparkswillfly]

You've definitely done the right thing...

 

[Moulder86]

He doesn't really I guess, I just wonder about trying to keep some sort of a channel of communication open for Max, then he can make his own decisions as and when.

 

[Moulder86]

Sparks.....just wanted to say your pup is Gorgeous I want one! lol

 

[sparkswillfly]

Thanks hes only gorgeous when hes asleep.

You can keep in contact with them and leave things open without being overly nice by sending him a card. When Max is a bit older would be nice to send him a card i.e. when he can scrawl his own name on it if you know what I mean.

 

[xarlenex]

I think I would send one if he'd kept in contact, like sending a text,or a phone call to see how Max is doing. But other than that at the very least, then no I wouldnt send one.

 

[nikky0907]

I think I would have done the same. He's not involved and imo doesn't deserve one...

 

[brownhairedmom]

Nope, you've done the right thing! No cards for ignorant men!

 

[Mummy&bump]

yep i agree hun uv dun the right thing! dont u worry about it, do u think he sits feeling guilty about u?? nope!!

as every1 else has said if he was at least textin n askin how ur lo is then ye but he aint so no stuff him!

xx

 

[Naya69]

you did the right thing i would of donr the same if he cant be bothered to spend money and time with his child at christmas why should you bother getting him anything for his bday he doesnt desearve nowt dont feel bad chick xx

 

[xJG30]

I deffo think you've done the right thing by not bothering, Tom's dad hardly ever bothers with him so we don't see why we should send him stuff.

 

[Moulder86]

Thank you all so much for ur replies, I feel a lot better knowing it's not just me being nasty!!

xx