Have you ever noticed...

[yourstruly10]

Have you ever noticed that even the formula can's try to make you feel bad about FF? Two of my friends just had babies and are breastfeeding and even though i though i was past feeling bad about stitching at two week im starting to feel bad again. I tried i really did but it just didnt work. So i was making my daughter a bottle today and re reading the instructions again for the millionth time and right there on the can it says breast milk is best for your baby. I got so upset. It just keeps getting shoved in my face.

 

[MrsRabbit]

I think thanks to the WHO they are legally required to say BM is better. I kind of think it like like organic - sure they say an organic veggie is better but I still feel good about feeding my kids regular veggies.

*hugs*

My Breast fed and formula fed babies are both healthy, happy, funny, smart, wonderful kids.

 

[yourstruly10]

Thanks im just having a feeling down moment. I know my daughter is doing great and growing well. She was born at 7lb 12oz and 18.5 inches long and at 12 weeks is 13lb 4oz and 24.8 inches long. shes growing great. I just feel a little bummed like maybe i didnt try hard or long enough. Just kinda wish it would stop being shoved in my face every where i looked lol.

 

[MrsRabbit]

They even put it on Prescription formula I have to order from the Pharmacy for my daughter's medical issues. I feel like telling the can - uh no breast milk made her poop blood it's not always better for every baby every family.

 

[bathbabe]

they have to by law. I dont see why, its not like you read that then suddenly your milk will come back in and you can breastfeed! X

 

[Odd Socks]

Aww hon,
Look at Ava, she's perfect!
One day, it's not going to matter anymore, promise
xx

 

[AlwaysPraying]

It is a struggle. Mine is 3.5 months and I just had a dream last night that I was breast feeding him once a day. I want to say I KNOW ALREADY!! As if guilt will somehow make my milk come in.

 

[Mrs Mayhem]

I don't care what people, cans, studies, doctors or anyone says, my daughter is happier and healthier on formula, I am doing what it best for my baby, as are we all! x

 

[bubbles123]

It actually says BF is best for babies and it has to by law. However it does not say BF is best for your baby, best for mum, best for your family, best for your situation or best for your sanity.... many things which BF may not be best for at all. So don't worry about it. Just enjoy your LO It does get easier as they get older, honestly

 

[yourstruly10]

Thanks everyone. I was having a down day but am feeling much better today. i just stood back for a moment looked at her and realized how happy and healthy she is. I know in the end i did what was best for her and I. Trying to breastfeed i was stressed and she was stressed and neither of us were happy.

 

[special_kala]

I dont think they are trying to make you feel bad at all. The goverment has a duty to promote breast feeding and the companies by law have to follow suit.

 

[yourstruly10]

I understand i know they have to by law it just seems like every where you turn its shoved in your face again.

 

[angel2010]

We are all doing what's best for our babies.

 

[bubbles123]

I understand i know they have to by law it just seems like every where you turn its shoved in your face again.

When it's raw, like it is now for you, you see it all of the time. When Lo gets older it is a lot less noticeable. It is balmy though. The Gov needs to do A LOT more than putting breast is best over everything if they want to help BF'ing. As we all know,it is way more complicated than people thinking formula is as good as BM and bashing the formula companies!

 

[happigail]

exactly ^.

I had a section before my baby was due... lost loads of blood... never leaked before the section and thought my milk would come in. she latched on whilst i was still in surgery, i was so happy, fed her for days, proper latch etc, but i never saw milk in her mouth, i asked the mw who 'milked' me to prove i had colstrom, and nothing came out. Kitty kept losing weight even though she was latched on 24/7, eventually the hv said i should top up, kitty then rejected the breast.

no one helped me, no one was on hand to show me how to up my production... nothing ever came in. stop with the breast is best an d redirect funds to actually helping people.

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

xx

 

[yourstruly10]

Thanks everyone. No one really helped me to learn how to do thing right when I had my daughter. I had six different nurses all saying different things and my daughter never once latched on properly. I was told multiple times oh she get it. After two weeks of no help and her losing weight i had to do something so i switch to formula. I am feeling much better about it now. Had her weight today and she was born at 7lb 12oz and at 3 months is up to 13lb 7oz so i must be doing something right. again thanks for all the support and letting me know it gets easier to ignore eventually.

 

[happigail]

Thanks everyone. No one really helped me to learn how to do thing right when I had my daughter. I had six different nurses all saying different things and my daughter never once latched on properly. I was told multiple times oh she get it. After two weeks of no help and her losing weight i had to do something so i switch to formula. I am feeling much better about it now. Had her weight today and she was born at 7lb 12oz and at 3 months is up to 13lb 7oz so i must be doing something right. again thanks for all the support and letting me know it gets easier to ignore eventually.

I so completely understand how you have felt/are feeling. It's gut wrenching x

 

[hattiehippo]

It gets easier I promise. As they get older less of your friends etc will be BF and then once they're on food its all really different anyway.

It doesn't mean I don't still get moments when I feel so guilty that Tom went onto Formula at 3 days old and that I should have tried harder and I still have moments when I can feel that physical ache to BF him. But he's 1 tomorrow, is happy, healthy, doing everything he should be doing developmentally and we have a fantastic bond.

I do understand that the gov/companies etc have an obligation to promote BF and that it is the absolute best you can do for your baby but putting it on formula tins doesn't make any difference IMO and way more needs to be put into supporting new mums properly for weeks after the birth to help more mums be successful.

 

[dreamwarrior]

synthetic oil is better than natural oil for your car. perhaps synthetic breast milk is better as well.