Leikela
Mom to 1 girl/1 boy
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I am just about 15 weeks pregnant and had the Materni21 test. We found out today that everything looks good and that we are having a boy! I already have a little girl and really wanted another princess. I cannot even begin to describe her and how amazing she is. I think in my mind, I wanted a carbon copy of her. I also wanted her to have a sister to relate with and play dress up with and to have when they are older and me and my husband are gone. Hubby and I had "her" name picked out--Alyssa May. That dream is now shattered.
After I got the call, I went to my desk at work and cried. I think I just needed to get it out though as I have been fine the rest of the day. I just needed to mourn the loss of my dream to have another baby girl. However, I see all the posts saying they love their little boys. No doubt I will love him but I also have the fears of, "Will I bond with him the same way?" "Will my daughter and him be close?" "What am I going to do with a boy?" LOL
Then part of me feels guilty. I should just be thankful for having a healthy baby, especially with being 38 years old. I know I will love him but I always imagined a house full of pretty dresses, bows and frills.
Reading on these boards have helped though. I am not alone in feeling this way and I know when he is born, I will regret ever feeling this way. I just needed an outlet to get all these emotions out! Thanks for reading!
After I got the call, I went to my desk at work and cried. I think I just needed to get it out though as I have been fine the rest of the day. I just needed to mourn the loss of my dream to have another baby girl. However, I see all the posts saying they love their little boys. No doubt I will love him but I also have the fears of, "Will I bond with him the same way?" "Will my daughter and him be close?" "What am I going to do with a boy?" LOL
Then part of me feels guilty. I should just be thankful for having a healthy baby, especially with being 38 years old. I know I will love him but I always imagined a house full of pretty dresses, bows and frills.
Reading on these boards have helped though. I am not alone in feeling this way and I know when he is born, I will regret ever feeling this way. I just needed an outlet to get all these emotions out! Thanks for reading!