Having second thoughts?

[Aphrodite]

Ive been thinking a lot the last few days about having ICSI, and I know people might think Im crazy but Im starting to wonder if I should put it off for a few months.

I mean, I know it was our decision to go for it now, even though Im in my final year of nursing, but I think we got excited and maybe didnt think it through fully. I sort of havent factored in any potential problems i might have like OHSS or feeling rough after the et. Also, assuming it worked first time, my first three months pregnant would be while I was doing my final management placement, and I could be sick, or might need to take time off, and that would make finishing up the course really difficult. Id also be getting pregnant while looking for jobs, then starting my post pregnant and leaving shortly after for mat leave. Altho ive been reassured that this is OK by HR, I cant help but feel guilty about doing that.

I know no one can make the decision except me and DH but its weighing heavily on my mind. Our referral should be going off today. Whwn we have our appointment and they set a date for treatment to start does anyone know if you can ask to have it a bit further along?

Having said all this, I cant help but feel we should go for it, but Im not sure of thats because im impatient and just dont want to wait anymore, or whether I have a gut feeling that we reallyshould start it now.

Also, went to an acupuncturist the other day who recommended some herbs and said someone was pregnant a month after taking them, and their count was worse than DHs! We also havent tried pre-seed or anything yet so Im thinking should we try this for a while and see what happens?

Its hard

 

[sonyabazonya]

I dont have any advice, but good luck with whatever decision you make xxxx

 

[MissMonty]

Hi Aphrodite, when do you finish your training? I don't think there is ever a good time to start this process - unless your a lady of leisure (now that would be nice). I'm three and half weeks into ICSI, and so far I've felt ok, just had a few side affects of the meds. Only had 2 appointments at the clinic so far but now I've started stims I will need to go more often. I haven't told work and it is really playing on my mind now, I know I'm going to have to phone in sick soon and I feel really guilty about lying.

If your near the end of your training it would be a shame to compromise it. I think I would consider finishing the training first. Although I understand how you must feel about trying to look for work.

Where do you live? I'm in the UK, once our NHS funded referral had recieved by the fertility clinic and we had had our first appointment with them, the referral was then valid for 18 weeks.

I think you should do what ever your heart is telling you - wishing you lots of luck

 

[CareBear]

I would say that if you are having doubts about starting something at this time it would be best to wait a little while until you feel sure its the right time for you. Also I think it might be worth giving acupuncture and herbs a go because if it works then you won't have had to do all the down regging and stimming and by doing this and delaying the IVF until you finish your course at least you won't feel like you're not doing anything IFSWIM?