He didnt suggest he TOLD me what it was going to be called

[lov3hat3]

So when i found out he INSISTED i have an abortion and kept going on and on and on. I broke up with him 2 days after i found because i couldnt take his selfishness. We argued and argued, he then insisted it wasnt his, then he said i wouldnt allow him to see the baby, and then he wanted to be there because "at least one parent should love it" coming from the one who wanted a abortion. Well yesterday he accepted it was his and that im keeping the baby. The baby is due in may, and thats when hes going on a week cruise, but oh no "its fine cos there will be plenty of time to catch up afterwards." then out of no where "if we have a girl its called emily, and its having my surname." Oh is it now? i didnt say anything purley cos i know its not going to be called emily, no offence to emily's or people that are naming their baby girl that, i just detest the name. How do i tell him this? it should be easy considering what a immature selfish prick hes being. The problem is i cant see us deciding on a name together, hes 21 and im 16, and we have different tastes and never really agree on alot. What to do? Am i being unreasonable? it just seems like hes not intrested at all, but hes ready to dictate everything.

 

[BlessedTwice]

If you don't see yall two staying together or him being involved like he should I would not let him pick out the name!!! You need to like the name you're the one carrying the baby Closer to it, just suggest a few names to him and see if he'll agree to one, but if he INSIST on Emily, I'd say forget him and name it what you want without his consent!

 

[lov3hat3]

If you don't see yall two staying together or him being involved like he should I would not let him pick out the name!!! You need to like the name you're the one carrying the baby Closer to it, just suggest a few names to him and see if he'll agree to one, but if he INSIST on Emily, I'd say forget him and name it what you want without his consent!

thankyou! friends and family have said to do this but i wasnt sure if it was right, but now someone else has suggested it, it makes me feel alot better about the situation!x

 

[KandyKinz]

It's your baby in your body so you should definitly have a HUGE say in the name....

As for surnames.... The way I see it is "traditionally" baby's usually always took on their mother's surname.... Sure tradionally that was the same as the father's name due to marriage the baby STILL none the less took on what the mothers surname was at the time.... So why f*ck with tradition! Give baby your last name!

 

[Callie-xoxox]

I had the same problem
And I named my daughter.
I am the one who will be in her life raise her take care of her
He is not going to do any of that.

You name the baby! He will have to deal with it!

 

[pixydust]

since he's only just showing any interest in the last few days, there's no guarantee he'll still be in the picture when the time comes to name the baby so right now i wouldnt even discuss names with him. It's ultimately ur decision what u name ur baby as ur not married only u can register the birth and he doesnt need to be there or agree with what u choose.

 

[kanga]

Don't give the baby his surname. I never really get why single women do that. You'll be bringing it up with what I can only assume will be minimal input from him!

 

[Pixxie]

He sounds like he isn't going to stick around, do what you want not what he wants xxx

 

[Wispyshadow]

Don't give the baby his surname.....it just really seems that he is flaky and selfish and not going to be reliable. It's your baby and really honestly I really think the Mom has the final say-so over what to name the baby. You don't need his permission...poo! You have to carry and grow the baby for nine months and then painfully push it out into the world, you pick the name that you love and know fits your baby perfect. Stand your ground.

 

[EmyDra]

Hahaha, no chance!

My FOB fully accepted straight away that the baby would have my name and didn't even offer his involvement.

Naming/coming up with names is in my opinion, one of the most exciting things about having a baby and definately something that the person who originally 'didn't want to have the baby' should have no involvment with.

Also, I imagine you're the main care-giver and that the bubs will be living with you and not him - it makes things a lot easier when the surnames match with your child.

Grrr! Some men.

 

[luciforms]

Give the baby a name you love and your surname. You will be your baby's proper parent, not him. By the sounds of it he only wants to spend time with you and your child when it suits him, and that's not what being a father is about.

You may only be 16 but you are still a person, and will soon be a mother. Do what's right for you

 

[Gwizz]

I agree with all the girls dont give her his surname. no offense but he doesnt sound like a doting father atm - if u register her in the hospital anyway he wont have a choice however he will need to be there if u want him on cert :s take back-up with u when u go register.

YOUR choice

 

[kanga]

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[QuintinsMommy]

My FOB demanded he have his last time
My son has my last name

 

[Bmonki]

The hospital will do you baby letter in YOUR surname, they always do in this country. Also he's only allowed at the registerng of the birth if you allow him to be... if not, go register the birth without him... you can put his name on the birth cert as the father without him being there afaik. as for the surname thing I dont think you can register in his surname unless he is there so if u dont tell him when ur going u can just say they wouldnt allow you to do it in his name and you didnt think emily sounded right with your surname

 

[kadey]

i am with the father of my little girl and she has his last name. purley because we were together throughout the pregnancy and I wanted her to take his last name. my new baby will take his name too. if the pregnancy goes well and he sticks around you maybe aswel considering a double barrelled surname. but the choice is yours darling. you still have a far way to go and he could stick arounf he may not so just take each day as it comes x

 

[charmedlassie]

pfffft what a total w*nker...he wanted nothing to do with it yet it MUST have his name?! What a joke...

The baby will have any name you want him/her to have without any input from him and he'll have to deal with that!!

 

[Yas17]

Stick to your guns :]
You're carrying this child for 9 months; you'll be pushing them out!
She's yours.
Especially if he's being a dick about everything!
I would say ignore that statement and just name her what you decide.
If he wants to share the naming process with you and H E L P you, then fine.
But not if he's going to 'decide' this without consulting the mother of his child.
Paaah and think he can actually decide this :')

Good luck sweets ;D
don't put up with that crap!

 

[0400772]

the baby name doesnt have to be sorted until after the birth, that will give you a clear indication of how much of a part of the baby life he wants to be in . which by sounds of it is minimal.

In regards to last name, Do you see yourself marrying him> If not i would give it yours! F*** Him.. he didnt want it in first place!

 

[xCookieDough]

Totally agree with what the majority of people are saying here, he sounds so rude, to insist HE chooses the name AFTER he told you to have a "a". Pssht demanding guy!

You have a HUGE saying in what your child will be called, but, tbh, based on my opinions and how I am like as a person, I'd tell him I'm not taking his shit and let you have the final say on it!

Gosh, people these days hey! Hope you get it sorted hun.xO