He lied again!

[dustbunny]

Yup, tis me in whinge mode again so I'm mainly typing this to get it out there so apologies again.

We were on speaking terms when the other day my referee for my UCAS application refused to send in the reference for ages and ages and I was complaining to my ex who said that he used character references for his application so why cant i do the same. And I didn't think much of it at the time but.... apparently he has been hunting high and low for jobs and not getting interviews and it dawned on me that it was because he should be sending academic references or previous employer so I confronted him about it and explained it all.
He just turned round and said that he does use an academic reference?!?!

It is petty but it's just another lie to the MASSIVE pile of lies he has kept sending my way. As for the baby he spoke of nothing for the time I was with him the other day except to ask "what features would you like our baby not to have." And I felt rude saying "not your nose" so I didnt say anything and he got pissy with me over not talking about the baby.

I also said he is welcome to book a private scan and I have heard nothing about this since I spoke about it to him.

Since last week [when we met for an awkward afternoon to clear the air enabled by me] he has sent me one text asking if I have felt the baby and thats it. I am sick to the back teeth of always... ALWAYS... falling for his sympathy card he constantly plays and updating him with info.

I really want to cut loose from the waste of space that he is. I don't trust him with a pet leech let alone a baby and he doesn't seem to grasp anything. I sent him a message about names and he said he liked Autumn and when I asked about the others he said "I only said Autumn because I didn't know how to pronounce the other names" ... because Odette is that hard to figure out.

I don't want him at the birth and I just don't trust him anymore or any of his family. Those who know my previous rants know how he gets his mum to write his messages and how he lies constantly.

I just feel at a loss, almost trapped by what I should be doing and what I feel.

Sorry for the rant but writing it out had made me feel a bit better.

 

[daveww]

Yup, tis me in whinge mode again so I'm mainly typing this to get it out there so apologies again.

We were on speaking terms when the other day my referee for my UCAS application refused to send in the reference for ages and ages and I was complaining to my ex who said that he used character references for his application so why cant i do the same. And I didn't think much of it at the time but.... apparently he has been hunting high and low for jobs and not getting interviews and it dawned on me that it was because he should be sending academic references or previous employer so I confronted him about it and explained it all.
He just turned round and said that he does use an academic reference?!?!

It is petty but it's just another lie to the MASSIVE pile of lies he has kept sending my way. As for the baby he spoke of nothing for the time I was with him the other day except to ask "what features would you like our baby not to have." And I felt rude saying "not your nose" so I didnt say anything and he got pissy with me over not talking about the baby.

I also said he is welcome to book a private scan and I have heard nothing about this since I spoke about it to him.

Since last week [when we met for an awkward afternoon to clear the air enabled by me] he has sent me one text asking if I have felt the baby and thats it. I am sick to the back teeth of always... ALWAYS... falling for his sympathy card he constantly plays and updating him with info.

I really want to cut loose from the waste of space that he is. I don't trust him with a pet leech let alone a baby and he doesn't seem to grasp anything. I sent him a message about names and he said he liked Autumn and when I asked about the others he said "I only said Autumn because I didn't know how to pronounce the other names" ... because Odette is that hard to figure out.

I don't want him at the birth and I just don't trust him anymore or any of his family. Those who know my previous rants know how he gets his mum to write his messages and how he lies constantly.

I just feel at a loss, almost trapped by what I should be doing and what I feel.

Sorry for the rant but writing it out had made me feel a bit better.

hope it helped to get that off your chest, you seem very mature and sensible , keep doing what your doing and dont lower yourself to anybody elses level

 

[Laura2919]

I love moaning about FOB... I think because it stops me moaning to him which doesnt make me look like a twat.
It sounds like he needs a good kick up the arse.. Or the head whatever one you like.. I know what one would hurt more...

 

[Mally01]

Have a good rant love! It makes us all feel better. I am sure my FOB will piss me off again soon and I will have a good rant too. It's good therapy, do it! You sound like you have totally grown out of him, like years ahead BTW.

 

[Rhio92]

x

 

[babydue2011]

It sounds like he needs a good kick up the arse.. Or the head whatever one you like.. I know what one would hurt more...

DO IT! DO IT!!!! hehe.

Why do these guys think we are so stupid and wont find out things!? lies, lies, lies... that should be his new name "Liar!" but im sure it wont effect him, he may not know how to pronounce it either

 

[dustbunny]

Thanks guys, I really appreciate the support and continuing to listen to me go off on one! Love you all!

 

[Laura2919]

Thanks guys, I really appreciate the support and continuing to listen to me go off on one! Love you all!

we are all here for you....

 

[Mally01]

snuggles, group hug

 

[dustbunny]

To sound even more selfish now I just had flowers delivered to me and they are the most pathetic bunch I have ever set eyes on in my life. Not wrapped or anything... just 4 stems green leaves. I rather he had saved his money and not have bothered. They are meant to be a sorry for everything... I just feel worthless and so sad today.

 

[Laura2919]

You wouldn't be normal if you didn't feel sad at one point. It's hard going it alone without children let alone when they are involved.. I sometimes sit and think maybe I shouldn't of said how I felt and I would still have my safe place but that's all he is. I don't love him and know I am better off but the future is scary for everyone and even more so when you think about going it alone. You will be ok. Sending you lots of today