Heartbroken

[babybaillie]

My 3 children were off to there dads on fri for there usual 2 nights access. He took them 4 hours away to a caravan. Never even mentioned it to me. I called on sat to ask him something and could tell from his voice there was something not right. After quizing him he eventually told me our 3 year old had been at the park playing with our 8 year old and 4 boys aged 8-10 had taken her hand and pulled her away from her 8 year old sister. The older one tried to get her back but the boys over powered her. She ran to get her dad. But the boys tried to take my wee girls top off tried to kiss her. and were trying to take her off the site. She also said they tried to push her in a pond Im heartbroken i just dont think ill ever get over this.

My children came home and my 8 year old tells a very different story from her dad. she says the 2 of them were sent to the park with my 1 year old. and when my 1 year old fell in the mud the 8 year old left the 3 year old alone to take wee one back to caravan. yet ex says he was at park but wee one needed a nappy change and he left the girls for 2 mins!!!

My wee one says dad told her to lie to me. She also told me he called his sister 1st who is a para legal. When i eventually did hear about it all he did was try and divert the blame to me.

I dont know what to do now. Called the police who wouldnt really give me much info as according to them i could be ANYONE!!! I asked if dad would be in trouble for leaving them at a park alone endangering them to be told no they didnt have any record they were alone!!!

Hes due to get them this week and I dont want to hand them over. I cant have a man whos willing to lie his face off to cover his own back. I also cant trust him to watch them so what do i do??

Tried getting an app with my lawyer but 1st app is the 19th Nov

I just keep thinking of Jamie Bulger and how close she got to that situation. Dont think i will ever get over this

 

[Ceejay123]

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[Katie1980]

Personally and I can't help you professionally but I wouldn't be allowing further access to the dad until I'd seen my lawyer, you need to know where you stand and I wouldn't be happy allowing access before then, it would only be a week before you would know but better safe than sorry. I'm so sorry this happened to you and your girls and I can't imagine the trauma you have all gone through. Lots of love and hugs to you all. Xx

 

[Dezireey]

I agree with Katie, keep them at home until you can get legal advice and help. The police can't force you to hand the kids to him and he will have to do the same as you, get a lawyer / go to court and that takes time for him to. Maybe re-assure him that you are not going to deny him access to his kids from now on, just that you need this incident to be investigated. It may make him wake up and think ' shit, she means business, I better not do that again' or it could mean that for the time being he has supervised access. I just wouldn't let my kids stay with him until I found out the truth and / or what's going on.

I would be petrified if he took my babies to the same park again and those kids were there. You are in the right and as a Mother you are protecting your kids. I just would put my foot down and not let him have them for a while. He can come see them at yours maybe with another adult present.

 

[Dream.dream]

Actually if you have a court order for visits and you keep them from their dad or if he has any sort of guardianship rights you can end up in trouble . Keeping a child from the other parent is custodial interfernce

If you believe they are in real danger being with him then you have to go file a restraining order right away to keep him being able to take them until you can get a lawyer .

 

[babycrazy1706]

Keep the kids with you til you can speak to a lawyer hun. Big hugs. Xx